When it comes to motherhood, mistakes comes with the territory. I mess up several times a day. Sometimes I learn from my errors, but most of the time I don’t.
Let’s take this week, for instance. My parents – who had been visiting – left and Wyatt was a wreck. I did not adequately prepare him for their departure, nor did I have enough distractions. The next day, his BFF/ our neighbor left to move across the country. Once again, my poor toddler was a mess. Actually he still is. I really should have prepared him better.
Luckily, the biggest mistake I’ve made with my daughter recently only hurts me – not her. But it’s a big one and I have no idea how to fix it: Hadley will not take a bottle.
We introduced a bottle at 2 weeks, and she had no issues. Because of my boob injury, she’d take several bottles each day. But as my boob healed, we gave her fewer and fewer bottles. We tried to give her a bottle a couple of weeks ago – at 10 weeks – and she would not take it. It had been a full 2 weeks since her last bottle, so she literally forgot how to do it.
I hate myself for not sticking with it. Wyatt never had any issues taking a bottle, and he didn’t get one every day, so I wasn’t even thinking that we had to be consistent. But lesson learned.
We’ve tried to give her a bottle every day for the past 2.5 weeks, sometimes several times each day. We’ve tried different nipples, different bottles, freshly pumped milk, milk heated a little warmer than usual, milk a little cooler, and defrosted milk. Jeff has tried, my mom has tried, I’ve tried. I’ve stopped her mid-nursing session and tried to give her the bottle, I’ve held her the same way I nurse her, we’ve held her completely different ways. We’ve tried dream feeding her, feeding her half asleep, feeding her swaddled, feeding her in different rooms, feeding her in front of the TV. Nothing has worked.
So adorable. So stubborn.
It’s almost like she forgot how to suck. She just chews on the nipple, spits it out, or purses her lips tightly together. She doesn’t take a pacifier either. I’ve been trying again with the paci because maybe if she gets the sucking of one down, she’ll get the other? I’m also going to try giving her a bottle of formula, in hopes that the new taste will make her eat.
Does anyone have any advice? Is all hope lost because she’s so “old”? She’ll be 3 months this weekend. I’m willing to try anything! I need her to take a bottle because I’m leaving her overnight for a bridal shower in September, NYCM in November, and DOPEY in January. Plus, I’d like to have the option to be away from her for more than 3 hours at a time, and Jeff wants the chance to feed her, too. Thank you so much for your help!
This has been a much better week for Hadley than last week. Whatever leap/ milestone/ growth spurt/ regression she went through at 9 weeks was not fun. I’m so happy to have my sweet girl back!
She’s getting more predictable each day, which this type A mom loves. She usually naps for 30-45 minutes in her pack ‘n’ play at the same time Wyatt naps, and she’s been going down for the night around 8:30 p.m. – which means I’m getting a bit of free time which is awesome. Jeff and I watched Million Dollar Listing Miami (no where near as good as NY and LA – is it me or were all of the agents trying too hard?) the other night with both kids sleeping upstairs and we just kept saying to each other “is this for real?” It was many more months before we had alone time at night when Wyatt was a baby.
I know I sound like a broken record, but Wyatt is so good with Hadley. He wants her to “be big” so bad so he can play with her. I love it so much.
We are in a dinner rut. I can’t figure out how to cook on weeknights and I don’t want to spend a ton of time doing food prep on the weekend. We usually cook one bigger meal on Sundays – like chicken parmesan or grilled pizza – and make enough for at least one night of leftovers, so that’s really the extent of my weekend food prep! We’ve mostly been doing easy grain/ pasta-based dishes and crockpot meals on the weeknights. I think I just need to accept that this is the norm for awhile. So, on that note, who has good crockpot meal recommendations?
You guys. I need help. Wyatt has not been sleeping well. He’s in and out of his room all the time. He delays nap and bedtime, is up super early, and walks into our room several times a night – most of the time he’s not even crying, he just wants to say hi. I’ve tried explaining to him to only come out of his room in the morning when it’s light out, to call for us if he needs us, to just read books in his bed if he’s not tired, etc. I’ve tried bribing – an afternoon trip to froyo if he stays in his room all night – and punishment – taking toys away every time he comes out – and nothing has worked. Not only is it annoying, but he is so overtired and cranky. It hasn’t been fun. So, any suggestions would be appreciated! I feel like it’s wrong to lock him in his room, he’s able to climb over baby gates, and I don’t think he’d listen to those “ok to wake” clocks.
I don’t have to do bed and bath time alone for eleven nights (insert confetti and dancing emoticons)! My parents will be here on Monday for a week and I am so, so, so excited to have some help. Wyatt is going to be so thrilled to have them here, too! Maybe Mimi can figure out how to get him to stay in his room…
Happy weekend everyone!
I love these posts, and I haven’t done one since having Hadley. Life is unpredictable right now because she’s so young and not in a routine yet. Still, I thought it would be fun to jot down how our days are like now so I remember it in the future.
12:40 a.m. – I hear Wyatt’s bedroom door open so I jump out of bed and sprint to meet him before he gets to our room. The last thing I want him to do is wake up Hadley. I tuck him in and tell him to stay in his room until it’s light out.
4:10 a.m. – an exact repeat of what happened just a few hours ago.
5:00 a.m. on the nose – Hadley lets out a scream. I heard her stirring for a few minutes, so I get up, change her, and realize her diaper leaked through her pajamas and swaddle. I change her while Jeff changes her pack ‘n’ play sheet. I nurse her and put her back down. The whole process – even with the outfit change – lasts 12 minutes.
5:26 a.m. – my alarm is set to go off in 4 minutes and I never fell back to sleep, so I get up and go pump. When Hadley started sleeping really well a few weeks ago, I decided to start pumping every morning instead of letting my supply even out. I pump 8-10 ounces in the morning and half goes to Wyatt and the other half goes in a bottle in case Hadley gets hungry while I’m gone. She rarely does so we’re building up quite the freezer stash.
I brush my teeth, change into my workout clothes, gather dirty laundry and pump parts, and head downstairs. I throw the laundry in the machine, freeze the breastmilk from the day before, wash pump parts, and spend a few minutes picking up the living room because I realize I never did last night – oops! I eat a half of banana, add some ice and milk to my iced coffee, and am in my car by 6:10 a.m.
6:30- 7:15 a.m. – spin class.
7:30 a.m. – walk in the door and immediately transfer the laundry from the washer to dryer. As soon as I walk into the kitchen, I’m attacked by a happy Wyatt – Jeff said he woke up around 6:15. I get both of our breakfasts ready – frozen waffles with peanut butter and banana for both of us – while Jeff goes upstairs to get a crying Hadley who is waking up.
In the next hour I eat, nurse Hadley, take a shower, get both kids dressed, make sure my bag has enough diapers, wipes, and snacks, load and turn on the dishwasher.
And try to capture baby smiles.
8:30 a.m. – head out the door to go to Jeff’s office for laser therapy on my foot. I take Hadley in my car, Jeff takes Wyatt. I thought she’d pass out so I’d have some peace and quiet in the car, but nope! This week has been pretty rough for her – it’s by far her crankiest yet.
9:10 a.m. – get adjusted and get laser therapy. I change and nurse Hadley before heading out. I’m thrilled she eats a lot because I don’t want to feed her during our morning activity. I’m OK nursing in public when it’s somewhere Wyatt can’t run away from me. This morning we’re going to the Charlotte Nature Museum, though, and he can easily get lost.
10:00 a.m. – arrive at the Nature Museum. Put Hadley in the K’tan and she quickly falls asleep (wohoo!). I try to explain to the crazy toddler that he can’t run away from me. He doesn’t listen.
Regardless, we have a fun morning with our friends!
Who recognized these sweet girls?
11:30 a.m. – time to leave if I want to make it home without risking a car nap. Hadley slept the whole time at the museum, but she wakes up when I take her out the K’tan. I change her and nurse her in the trunk of my car with Wyatt sitting next to me chowing down on raisins.
11:45 a.m. -- We head home and Hadley screams the entire way. How do I have the only two babies in the world who hate the car? During the car ride I also learned that Wyatt knows the chorus to “Fancy” which is hysterical. Then I realized I probably need to start censoring my music choices when he’s around.
12:15 p.m. – arrive home and immediately change and feed the crank, hoping it was one of those things making her so unhappy. Nope. She has a major spit up episode and both her and I need new outfits. I plop her in the bouncy seat, still screaming, and make sandwiches for Wyatt and I – turkey for me, grilled cheese for him. I also throw some veggie stock and quinoa in a pot and spend a whole two minutes chopping veggies for dinner tonight. That’s called cooking these days.
12:45 p.m. – I turn on Mickey for Wyatt, while I pace for 20 minutes trying to calm Hadley down.
1:10 p.m. – I change Wyatt’s diaper and outfit, and read him a book. Mind you, Hadley is still screaming so he kicks me out of his room before we can even finish Llama Llama Red Pajama. Sorry, bud!
1:20 p.m. – I swaddle Hadley and nurse her. I know she’s probably not hungry, but I know she’ll be more likely to take a pack ‘n’ play nap if I let her nurse to sleep. She’s successfully taken pack ‘n’ play naps 3/4 days this week – last week, she took 0 naps in the crib in 5 attempts so I think she prefers the pack ‘n’ play. It is my goal in life to get their afternoon naps synched!
1:28 p.m. – I put Hadley down and hear Wyatt’s door open. He needs a new diaper. I change him and he goes to sleep.
1:30 p.m. – go time! I open my computer, respond to emails, and brainstorm article ideas for next week. Hadley sleeps well so I have time to unload the dishwasher and clean up the kitchen from lunch, too!
2:20 p.m. – I hear that Hadley is up. I try to ignore her and hope that she settles back to sleep on her own. But she doesn’t. That’s OK – a 50 minute crib nap at 2 months is pretty amazing, so I’ll take it!
I nurse Hadley and spend the rest of the time until Wyatt wakes up trying to keep her happy. I sing, walk, dance, and play with her on her activity mat, etc. Things were going well until I attempted tummy time. I should have known better!
3:40 p.m. – Wyatt is up! I’m very happy with today’s nap after yesterday’s 40 minute one! I make us a snack to share – Greek yogurt, blueberries, and almonds – and turn on Little Einsteins.
Then I have a talk with Wyatt. We have his friend’s birthday pool party tonight at 5:30. I have to take both kids to the pool alone in 97 degree weather. I’m going to have to get in the pool with Wyatt, and hope Hadley stays happy in her carseat in the shade. I’m really nervous about this. I’m scared she’ll have a meltdown and I’ll need to leave him alone in the water (he’ll be wearing a lifejacket, there are lifeguards, and he’s been in swim lessons for over a year, but still… he’s two!) and I’m scared that she’ll literally melt from the heat. But it’s one of those things that I’ll never know how it will pan out unless I try! So, I talk to Wyatt about how important it is that he listens to me tonight.
4:00 p.m. -- I try to get Hadley in sleep mode again. I’m try to be strict about only keeping her awake 1-2 hours at a time. I nurse her and she passes out, but she’s not settled so I let her lay on me for a bit. I turn on Mickey for Wyatt because he’s whiny, and because we watch a lot of TV now that Hadley is around. #momoftheyear
After a few minutes, I put her down on her Boppy newborn lounger in the living room. Then I find our swimsuits and pack our bag for the party. I try to fold the laundry that’s been sitting in the dryer all day, but Wyatt is a little too eager to “help”. Our neighbors – Wyatt’s BFF who is moving in a few weeks waaah – stop over for a bit and I chat while Wyatt plays.
5:00 p.m. – Hadley wakes up, we say bye to our friends, I nurse her, put his bathing suit on, and put mine on.
5:30 p.m. – We get to the pool and it’s clouded over and there’s a nice breeze. I keep Hadley in her carseat where she’s happy looking around and I sit on the edge of the pool while Wyatt plays. For the next 1.5 hours, she’s happy being in and out of her carseat and he listens to me somewhat well. My friends lend me a hand when I need it. He even eats a bit of pizza! The evening goes better than expected, and I make a mental note to brave the pool alone with them again the next time it’s cloudy and cooler.
Then, after I dry off and change Wyatt, he takes off into the grass and steps in a red ant pile. Figures!
7:15 p.m. – get home and immediately give Wyatt some Benadryl. He’s calmed down a lot but there are about a dozen bites on his feet. Poor guy! I nurse Hadley.
7:40 p.m. – bath time for Wyatt. I put Hadley in her swing outside the bathroom while he brushes his teeth. She screams the entire time I give him his bath, but I don’t know what else I’m supposed to do. I get him out of the bath and get him dressed, then take her out of the swing. I try to calm her down while I read to him, but he starts getting upset. Another story time fail for the day. Sigh. Luckily he’s out a few minutes after 8 p.m.
I get changed and get Hadley dressed for bed. We go downstairs and I eat the quinoa salad standing up while swaying back and forth with her.
8:15 p.m. – Jeff gets home. I tell him I have things under control, so he goes on the bike trainer. I nurse Hadley, she falls asleep, and I put her in the Boppy again – I really should start putting her down upstairs, but I’m too lazy tonight.
8:30 p.m. – I eat too many pretzel M&Ms and write most of this post – I’ll finish the rest of it in the morning.
9:15 p.m. – I fold laundry, pick up the living room, load the dishwasher, brew coffee and put it in the fridge, gather bottles and pump parts and head upstairs. I lay out my running gear for the morning, get ready for bed, and set my alarm for 5:30 a.m.
9:50 p.m. – I call down to Jeff and he brings up Hadley. He changes her diaper and swaddles her. She stays asleep tonight so I don’t nurse her again. I thank God that tomorrow is Friday and pray that Wyatt sleeps all night. Kind of odd that I trust the 2 month old will sleep better than the 2 year old, but that’s been the case lately. I fall asleep the minute my head hits the pillow.