Everyone says that the first year of having two kids is the worst. I was pleasantly surprised that the first few months were easier than expected (no doubt because my first baby was so not easy, so my perspective was skewed). But around the 4-month mark, juggling two kiddos became a little more challenging.
My daughter is a wonderful baby, but she doesn’t nap much. This makes it tricky to get any work done. I spent months trying to get her to nap, but by the time the New Year rolled around, I had enough. It was time to throw in the towel. We hired a sitter to come a few of afternoons per week, and it has been great! I’m so happy with how things are going. I feel so much less stressed and so much happier.
No one believes me that she doesn’t nap well because she’s so happy.
Now that we have somewhat of a routine, I thought a “day in the life” post was in order. The last time I did one of these posts Hadley was 2 months old – and reading it just makes me tired! I honestly thought things were going well back when I wrote it, but OMG. I’m very glad to be where we are today.
So here’s what yesterday looked like. Wyatt is 3 and Hadley is 10 months old as of today!
4:04 a.m.: Hadley is awake. She usually sleeps well, but last week she had some congestion so we held her for several hours for a few nights. She’s had a tough time settling back in to sleeping all night since, so we let her cry. She used to sleep until 5:30, wake up to nurse, and fall back to sleep until 7. I want her to get there again, so we don’t respond.
4:26 a.m.: The crying is getting worse, and I’m getting nervous that she’ll wake Wyatt up. If that happens, he won't go back to sleep. I have no idea what to do. Then the decision is made for me. The poor girl is just learning how to pull up, and she whacks her head on her crib. Jeff goes in to soothe her, and she’s asleep again within a few minutes.
5:30 a.m.: My alarm goes off. I debate going back to sleep since Hadley was just up, but Jeff told me he changed her diaper an hour ago – which means I can attempt a dream feed without waking her (she doesn’t like being wet, so I typically change her before I nurse her). I’m successful! I was able to nurse her without ever seeing her eyes. The best feeling!
Next, I pump for 15 minutes. I have no idea why I’m still pumping. Ok, I do. Wyatt’s immune system tanked as soon as he weaned. Hadley is already losing interest in nursing and I fear she’ll wean soon, so I’m building a freezer stash so she can have breastmilk for as long as possible. I want to keep pumping for as long as possible, but I’m really getting sick of it.
I brush my teeth, change into my running clothes, and head downstairs. I down coffee and a banana, and get Wyatt’s Valentine’s ready for school.
This is the first time he decorated cookies without eating any in the process! I let him have one when we were finished.
6:40 a.m.: I’m out the door for my run. It’s cold – 32 degrees, remember I’m a wimp so that’s cold for me – but there’s no wind, and I can see the sun coming up. I do an easy 5 miles, but it was one of those runs where I just feel so thankful to be a runner.
Best way to start the day.
7:30 a.m.: I head inside after stretching and the next hour is chaos. I make Wyatt’s lunch for school, make breakfast for all of us, eat my oatmeal while feeding Hadley her oatmeal, get a shower, get Wyatt dressed for school, and head out the door by 8:30.
8:30- 9:00 a.m.: Drive to and from preschool drop-off.
9:10 a.m.: Nurse Hadley and put her down for her nap. She doesn’t always take a morning nap, but I always try. Then I “cook” dinner – I throw some quinoa on the stove and some butternut squash in the oven (I buy butternut squash pre-cubed to save time – and my fingers). While the quinoa cooks, I fold laundry and put away all of my baking supplies from the day before.
9:55 a.m.: Hadley falls asleep! Yay. This means I can go to my office and do some work. I cannot work when either of my kids are awake. I need complete silence.
10:17 a.m.: She’s awake. Yup, a 22-minute nap. This is the norm if she takes a morning nap. Still, I cross my fingers that she’ll go back to sleep, but that doesn’t happen.
10:45 a.m.: I get her and we play for a little while before I make us an early lunch.
11:30 a.m.: We’re out the door to run errands before we have to pick Wyatt up from school. Running errands with one kid feels like vacation, especially when the one kid is Hadley. She’s content to just ride in the Ergo and look around.
12:45 p.m.: We pick Wyatt up from school. He brings home some crazy Valentine’s. What happened to the days when store-bought cards were enough? Thanks Pinterest.
1:00 p.m.: We get home. Wyatt knows the drill. He strips in the laundry room, goes potty, and washes his hands before we all head upstairs. He gets in his pjs (he only wears pajamas when we’re home now), and the three of us climb in his bed to read a book. Except Hadley wants to climb out, so we let her crawl around on the floor. Then we sing a song and it’s naptime for Wyatt. Yes, he still naps. In fact, he naps better than he did this time last year!
Next it’s Hadley’s turn. I walk across the hall to her room, change her diaper, attempt to nurse her (she’s really not into this feeding), and put her down.
I head downstairs, unpack Wyatt’s backpack, and try to start working, but I can hear both of them through the ceiling. I write this post instead of doing work.
2:00 p.m.: Wyatt is asleep but Hadley is still up. She’s laying down and shaking her head back and forth so I know she’ll nap, but don’t know when.
2:20 p.m.: She’s finally asleep!
3:00 p.m.: The babysitter gets here, and Wyatt comes downstairs 5 minutes later. I resume working.
3:25 p.m.: Hadley is up. I give her a good 15 minutes before I get her. Even though we have a sitter, I get her most days because sometimes she nurses at this time. Today she does, thankfully.
3:45- 6:00 pm. I sit in my office and work. FOR OVER TWO HOURS, WITHOUT INTERRUPTION. Ok, that’s a lie. Wyatt came in to get art supplies once and another time to tell me that he ate his dinner. BUT STILL. This is amazing.
6:00 p.m.: Bath, jammies, and nurse Hadley. I tell Hadley that she’s turning 10 months old a few minutes after midnight, and let her know that 10-month olds sleep until at least 5 a.m. She’s in bed by 6:30 and falls asleep within 10 minutes.
6:30 p.m.: This is mommy-Wyatt time. We play with Magnatiles, and hide from invisible green and purple polka dot crocodiles that keep invading our house. He helps me clean up some of his toys and earns a special sticker.
7:15 p.m.: Bath, brush teeth, jammies, book, and cuddle time for Wyatt. I lay in his bed with him for a few minutes every night now, and it seems helps him wind down and stay in bed.
7:45 p.m.: Finish picking up the kitchen and family room. I throw a quinoa salad together for myself and come back into the office to respond to a few emails and write more of this post. I hear Wyatt running around his room and notice that he doesn’t settle down until after 8:30.
8:50 p.m.: Jeff gets home. We watch Greys Anatomy and then hear Wyatt get sick in his bed. He got the dreaded stomach virus that's been going around school. This isn't where our night ends, but I think it's where this post should! It was a long night.
Umm, didn’t I just write one of these? How is this sweet girl already 5 months old? Seriously, how?!
This has been the best month so far! We’re finally getting into a routine and the whole household is much happier – and more well rested. This past month I started putting Hadley to bed before Wyatt (he hangs out with Sofia, Jake, or Mickey while I give her a bath and nurse her). Then I give him a bath and do his bedtime routine. I cannot tell you what a difference this has made. Having this one-on-one time with each child every night and not having to rush through someone’s bath because the other is crying has made things so much easier. Wyatt goes to bed happy and stays in bed all night (!), and Hadley is always passed out by 6:45 p.m. She still wakes up overnight to eat sometimes, but she nurses quickly and goes right back to sleep, so I don’t mind. Her naps are starting to get longer, too. She’ll usually take one solid 1+ hour nap a day now, in addition to shorter ones.
But the real reason this month has been so wonderful is because Hadley has finally discovered her brother. She is obsessed with him. She constantly tries to get his attention and will always flash him a smile and giggle if he even looks in her direction. And it makes him super happy when she laughs. I love it so much.
Breastfeeding is still going well, though she won’t take a bottle. We started solids right at 5 months per the doctor’s recommendations and so far, so good. She’s quite the little chunk and can already sit up really well. But she hasn’t rolled over in either direction since she was 2 weeks old. I have a feeling I have a while before she’s mobile!
Postpartum weight loss
I mentioned last month that I thought I was back at my starting weight, and I am. I weighed 137 lbs. at my first prenatal doctor appointment, and 135-138 is my “happy weight”. I’ve been in that range consistently for the past month now.
My tummy is still flabby and my hips are still wider than normal, but I’ve reached the point where I do not care at all. My clothes fit well enough and I work out really hard, so I’m just proud of my body. No one cares that my stomach isn’t flat, so why should I? And, yes, it’s not at all ironic that this body love came at the end of swimsuit season!
Return to running
Since I share every single workout, you guys already know running is going well. I’m not as fast as I was after having Wyatt, but that’s only because my goals and training are different, not because I’m not “back” from pregnancy.
Month 5 running stats:
- Longest run: 18 miles
- Fastest run: 5k race in 21:35
- Fastest mile: 6:33 during that 5k race
- Fastest stroller run: ummm… none happened this month. Ooops! Lots of stroller walks though.
Why did I bother spending a small fortune on the Duallie?
I’m really happy with how everything is going at 5 months in – which is a complete 180 from how I felt after having Wyatt. Things are a million times easier when you have an easy going baby vs. one who is more difficult.
I feel incredibly fortunate to have had my kids in the order that I did (HUGE hugs to moms who have high-need babies as they’re second or third or fourth!), and I feel like the luckiest mom alive to have two healthy, happy kiddos. They are my world.
My baby girl is 4 months (+ 1 week) old already!
Happiest baby ever. Thank you, God.
Time is flying. Seriously – the first 4 months of Wyatt’s life felt like the longest 4 months of my life. But the first 4 months of Hadley’s life have definitely been the fastest ever.
At the same time, I almost can’t remember what it feels like to be pregnant, but I know that I hated it. When I was going through infertility, I’d feel (embarrassingly) jealous every time I saw a pregnant woman. Then I got pregnant, and I’d get excited whenever someone announced a pregnancy. Now? I see pregnant women and just feel bad for them. I’m glad to have that stage of my life behind me.
She’s so much more fun on the outside – even when she’s grumpy.
- Sleep: Well folks, the 4-month sleep regression is real. It started exactly one week before Hadley turned 4 months old. I never noticed it with Wyatt because he had no where to regress to. I just re-read Hadley’s 3-month update and I want to cry. I can’t believe she used to sleep so well. She’s up 2 times most nights now, and is ready to start the day by 6 a.m. However, naps have gotten better. She’ll usually take two 1-hour long naps in her crib each day, and the rest of her naps are on the go. The sleep regression isn’t all bad, though. Now she’s so tired during the day that she actually rests her head on me. She used to be a pretty non-cuddly baby so I’ll take it.
- Breastfeeding: Is still going really well. Eating is Hadley’s favorite; she is humungous – 17lbs and in size 9 months clothes – and hums whenever she nurses. She’s still not taking a bottle, though, unless she’s dream-fed.
- Mom of two: Wyatt is taking more of an interest in Hadley, and absolutely loves helping taking care of her. Things have been easier this month but only because I’ve been in NJ with my parents for 2.5 weeks. They were gone the other day, though, and I was alone with the kids and quickly remembered how much more difficult it is caring for two kids on my own. Maybe Hadley will be past her sleep regression by the time we get home this weekend. That would certainly make things easier for mama. #wishfulthinking
Postpartum weight loss:
I weighed myself before we left for NJ and I was at my pre-pregnancy weight!
Ignore my hair – it’s been falling out in chunks and is even more of a disaster than normal.
But I have a feeling I may have put a couple pounds back on since then. Between Hadley’s extra overnight feeding sessions and my longer runs, my appetite has been insatiable – and I’ve been making some unhealthy food choices. This happens every time I’m in NJ because it’s the land of Surf Taco, crumb cake, and fudge. Totally worth it!
I still have a belly and am much wider through my hips. Three pairs of pre-pregnancy shorts fit me, but most other things don’t yet, including most shirts. I wish I could buckle down, do more ab work, and limit my sweets intake to lose my belly but I’m too lazy. I feel like I look pretty similar to how I did at 4 months after having Wyatt, and my belly eventually went back close to normal size after I had him, so I’m just not motivated. Instead, I’ll just cringe and whine every time I try something on that doesn’t fit. I make no sense.
Return to running:
As I’ve mentioned in my NYCM training updates, running is going really well. The only weird thing I’ve been experiencing lately is nipple chafing. It’s been happening on every single run, and it’s not even that humid here. I’ve never had this issue before, so I’m assuming it’s breastfeeding-related? All of my nursing sports bras are new, so I can’t figure it out.
Here are my month 4 running stats:
- Longest run – 12 miles
- Fastest run – 7 miles in 7:37 pace (which included 7x 800m at 6:52 pace, hence the fast average)
- Fastest mile – 7:00 flat during 800m repeats
- Fastest stroller run – 5 miles at 8:03 pace (with Hadley) <--- I likely won’t beat this until the next time I’m in NJ where it’s flat.
I feel pretty much like I’m back to my old self with running. I’m a little slower than where I was after I had Wyatt, but I think that has more to do with marathon training this time around instead of half marathon training.
Things are good and I love my happy girl so much!