This Runner's Trials
11Jan/12208

In need of sleep

Wyatt is 7 weeks old today!

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Do you know what most 7 week olds do? Sleep at least one five hour stretch per night. Sadly, we are not even close to that. Here's what last night looked like:

  • 8:15 pm. Bedtime routine started: bath, and then baby massage, feed, and burp in his dark room with Sleep Sheep playing in the background. Asleep by 9:00 pm.
  • 9:30 pm. Awake and screaming. Takes paci in crib but can't keep it in his mouth. Daddy picks him up after 10 minutes and rocks him with paci. After 30 minutes, he still won't sleep. Daddy gives him a bottle and 10 minutes later, he passes out at 10:20.
  • 10:45 pm. Awake and screaming. Change a wet diaper. I lay down with him in bed and he passes out next to me. I put him into his crib at 11:15 pm.
  • 11:45 pm. Awake and screaming. Change a wet and dirty diaper. Nurse him, burp him, and try to put him in the crib at 12:15 but his eyes pop open. Lay down with him and he falls asleep. Back in the crib at 12:30 am.
  • 1:25 am: Awake and screaming. Try to give him paci, but he won't take it. He takes my finger instead. I bring him into my bed, he flails for a long time, but finally falls asleep at 2:35 am. I put him back in his crib.
  • 3:10 am: Awake and screaming. Change a wet diaper. Nurse him for a few minutes, but he's not really interested. Lay with him only to see big, blue eyes staring back at me. He's not fussing, just flailing. I go downstairs to my room (I've been sleeping with him in the nursery), and allow him to sleep on my husband's stomach. He flails too much, so after a half hour we put him in between us and try to go to sleep.
  • 4:58 am. Awake and screaming. I take him back upstairs, change a wet diaper, nurse, and burp him. I don't even try to put him in his crib and allow him to sleep with me. We both drift off.
  • 6:10 am. Awake and just fussy. I give him my finger to suck on and he falls back to sleep.
  • 7:22 am. Awake, happy, and ready to start the day. I wish I could say the same for myself!

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Our longest stretch of sleep was just over one hour last night. This has been typical the past week. Before that, we used to get one 2-3 hour stretch at the beginning of each night. We didn't change anything, so I don't know where we're going wrong. We used to think it was gas that wakes him up, but I think he's been less gassy this past week.

His naptimes are anything but consistent no matter how hard I try. Yesterday, he napped for one 40 minute session, one 2 hour session, and one 1 hour session. But some days, he won't nap more than one hour total.

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Some notes:

  • Wyatt has reflux and hates sleeping on his back. He doesn't sleep any better when elevated- in a swing or car seat- and he doesn't sleep well on his stomach if he's flat. He only sleeps well on his stomach if he's being held upright.
  • We can't let him cry it out. Crying just causes more gas and makes his reflux worse. On a similar note, I'll let him fuss at night, but once he starts really crying, I need to respond to him.
  • We've let him sleep in his crib, pack n' play, boppy, elevated snuggle nest, and swing. Nothing works.
  • He usually naps on us or in his car seat, though if he's really out, he'll sleep in his crib or pack n' play. I realize allowing him to nap on us is likely not helping our situation, but I'd rather him nap this way than not at all. Getting him to nap- and stay down- is just as challenging as getting him to sleep during the night.
  • His first 2.5 weeks of life, all he did was sleep. I had to wake him every 2-3 hours to feed him though. My how babies change…
  • He hates being swaddled, but we've been swaddling for the past month because he flails so much that he hits himself in the face. We just swaddle with a receiving blanket. Last night he was unswaddled and just in a sleep sack, and he didn't sleep better or worse. I heard the Halo sack works wonders, so I've ordered it.
  • When he wakes up, I don't talk to him and try to avoid eye contact. I just "shhhh" him and put the Sleep Sheep back on. I also don't turn on the lights, except for the nightlight that always stays on.
  • We've tried gripe water 4 times, but he's thrown it up 3 of those 4 times so we're not using it anymore.
  • We keep the temperature in the house at 72 degrees. He doesn't feel too hot or too cold to me.
  • I don't think he's over- or under-stimulated. I only put the TV on at night, if ever. I usually have music on or sing to him, and we play on his playmat or I talk to him while he's in his boppy. We also take walks each day and run errands.

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I can't believe how long, detailed, and boring this post is, but I really need help. The sleep deprivation is seriously taking it's toll on me, and I'm not sure how much longer I can keep this up. I can't imagine it's good for Wyatt's health either. I'm praying one of you has the magic answer! :) Thank you so, so much.

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  1. Lady…I feel so bad for you. I can’t even imagine how exhausted you are feeling. Have you tried a regular noise maker. That sleep sheep that everyone raves about (we have it too) only stays on for a little bit. I wonder if he’s waking up when there is no background noise? We bought a regular noise maker like we have in our bedroom and he started sleeping longer… ;-) I’ll keep thinking for you mama. XOXO

    • i agree-we bought a sound machine and set it to the rain setting and it has helped both of our kids sleep better.

      • A couple of thoughts….

        My sister swore by the vacuum CD that she got online. She played it on repeat and it helped my nephew sleep and stay asleep…his sleep habits were VERY similar.

        Have you tried mylecon? I know gripe water is similar but I am a mylecon fan. There is a generic version at Target that is cheaper than the name brand.

        A good friend of mine hired a baby sleep counselor with her first. She said it was the best money she ever spent. I think she said it was $200 total. I imagine if she found one here in Chattanooga you can fine one. If you are interested you might call the birthing center to see if they have any contacts.

        Finally…I am so sorry and I am SO impressed that you are doing as well as you are. PLEASE remember to take care of yourself too. Ask for help when you need it…even if it requires a big gesture…like a Mother or Mother in law or sibling visit from another city so you can get some rest. It took me a while with my first to learn to ask for help and I was so glad when I did because I felt such relief.

        Just think…pretty soon you will be the one with advice and stories for other new mothers!

        Take Care,
        Molly

        • I did not know baby sleep counselor exists. I’m definitely going to look into it! Also, I’m lucky my parents and in-laws have been here off and on (they don’t live nearby). I think that’s the only reason I’m functioning. Thank you!

  2. I don’t have any kids (yet) myself, but I just want to give you a virtual hug! That sounds brutal. I really, really hope you get things figured out soon.

  3. I don’t want to say it, but I don’t think there is a magic answer. I have an almost 2.5 year old girl, and an 11 month old boy. We haven’t raised them any differently, but my daughter has been an amazing sleeper from Day One. By 10 weeks old, she was sleeping 12 hours per night, and taking three amazing naps per day. My son, on the other hand, had colic (just thinking about it now makes me shudder; he cried for 20 out of 24 hours a day for five months), and he’s never slept well. He does sleep through the night, but naps…forget about it. He’s terrible. I tell you this so that you don’t go around blaming yourself. You are a terrific mom, and doing the very best that you can do.

  4. Nothing helped our Connor until we took him to the chiropractor. I think he was 2 1/2 months old at the time. We had been dealing with the same things you’re describing & I didn’t know what to do. I think my cousin suggested it so we tried it & it worked. It was by no means a 100% fix but he was worlds better than he was before. It even worked better than the meds the doctor had prescribed. Good luck. I know everyone says this but it does get better. Sometimes it takes longer than we would like (I remember all too well) but it does get better.

  5. I don’t have solid advice because I don’t have kids, but do you have a noise machine? The sleep sheep is great. Also, at the last baby shower I was at, I heard amazing things about the Nap Nanny. I haven’t done any research on it, but if he likes to sleep in your arms or the car seat, maybe this would help? Not sure if this would just get him napping more during the day or if it would help at night as well, but it might be worth it to research it! :) GOOD LUCK! I hope it gets easier for you!

  6. I don’t have kids and this is totally a stab in the dark, but he really sounds uncomfortable. Is there anyway you can prop him up to simulate maybe how you or your husband are holding him? I’m sure you’ve arranged him every way you possibly can.

    -or-

    It could just be his Wyatt-ness. I’m a crazy picky sleeper and I’ve NEVER had a full out continuous sleep in my life. It’s just my Alyse-ness. My point is, don’t think that you are doing anything wrong, it just could be that’s how he is going to sleep. I know that doesn’t hope because I follow you on Twitter and I know you are a zombie right now. Good luck.

  7. I don’t have children, so unfortunately I’m not going to be of much help. I just wanted to chime in and give you some cheering on! I can’t imagine living through several weeks of nights like that, but I hope things get better for you soon. In the meantime, just know you are my super hero right now! Good luck and I hope things begin to get better :)

  8. honestly, it sounds like you are doing everything right-which i know isn’t really helpful. it sounds like the only way he really sleeps is while being held or did i miss something? have you tried putting him on his side-maybe propping him up with something behind his back? our 2nd is also 7 weeks and is up every 2 hrs still-which isn’t as rough as your nights but it’s no 5 hour stretch so i think every baby is different. have you talked to his doctor about his sleep? we also use the gas drops for infants for tucker and they seem to help but it’s hard to tell. i hope someone has some great advice for you but i know it is SO miserable not sleeping.

    • Good luck to you too! His doctor keeps reminding me he was born 3 weeks early so I need to be patient. But I’m tired, as you know. <3

  9. I don’t know if this is going to help you or not but this is what helped us. We didn’t let my son stay away for more than two hours, at the most. After an hour and a half it was time to start winding down and getting ready to go to sleep. My son needed to eat a lot! He ate every two hours until he was 8 months old. Sometimes I would feed him when he woke up from a nap and then again before his next nap just to make sure he was full enough and not waking up because he was hungry, so every hour and a half. He went to bed at 6pm. The more sleep he got the better he slept, the longer he would sleep, and the easier it would be to get him to sleep. My daughter sleeeps best in our bed. I’ve decided I don’t care where she sleeps right now as long as we’re all getting some sleep. When she’s about 3 1/2 – 4 months old we’ll start getting her to sleep in her crib. I always put both babies to sleep on their sides too. It’s helped my daughter go to sleep if I lay down on our bed with her and soothe her to sleep and then leave once she’s out. Good luck!! I know how hard it is!

    • Oh another thing, we tried Gripe water and it didn’t work for us but Mylicon did.

    • Thank you! How did you get your son to nap every 2hrs during the day though?

      • Jen-

        This comment seems very similar to the approach we used with our son. Several of my friends have babies a few months older than mine and they recommended this 90 minute sleep program so I read it and tried it with my son. I think it’s also described as sleep training. It worked wonders for us. It talks about the natural cycle and shows signs to look for and tips for napping and night sleep.

        http://www.amazon.com/90-Minute-Baby-Sleep-Program-Natural/dp/0761143114

        We also use a sleep machine which stays on all night long as well. Another thing, we also read Happiest Baby on the Block which has 5 tips for how to comfort/calm the baby. One of these was swaddling. I know you said Wyatt doesn’t always like being swaddled but we really found that our son slept so much better when he was confined and couldn’t wave his hands to wake himself. This has to be so frustrating I really feel for you and I hope someone has some advice that will help you.

        • We use a sleep app on the iPhone and leave it on pretty much all the time. I just wanted to agree with the recommendation for the Happiest Baby on the Block. There is also a pretty short DVD version, since reading might be the last thing you want to do right now.

        • Thank you, I’ll check out that 90 Minute Sleep Program. I’ve read Happiest Baby on the Block and saw the DVD. It honestly didn’t help us.

          • At first I would lay down with our son in our bed (in the Snugglenest) and I would turn him towards me and say Shhh over and over until he fell asleep. I held his pacifier in his mouth too so he wouldn’t spit it out. We play music during naps and all through the night for background noise, also. If he started freaking out completely, I’d pick him up and rock him some until he started looking drowsy, then lay him back down and start over. I usually started this after he’d been awake for 1 1/2 hours since sometimes it took so long. We read stories before naps and bedtime too, and Goodnight Moon is always last so he started associating that with going to bed. When he got older we would read that story to him and it would instantlly calm him down and he would start sucking his thumb and lay his head on our shoulder. We tried just about everything and the only thing that finally helped us was Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. That book talks a lot about sleep patterns and how much sleep kids need and so on. That book saved us! We did the 5 S’s from Happiest Baby on the Block too.

  10. I don’t have kids, but apparently, and my mom can claim, that hair dryers and white noise can really help calm babies down. Hope that helps! Good luck!

  11. I don’t have a baby, but I was at a baby shower last weekend and there were several mom’s of babies in attendance. At least two of them (who had never met) raved over the “Mom’s On Call” programs and said that it was lifesaver. Both shared that it helped them get their babies on a schedule and teach them how to sleep. There is a book and DVD combo and they also have online courses. It could be worth a shot! http://www.momsoncall.com/

  12. Rest assured that as soon as you get it under control, it will change again, so don’t be too hard on yourself :)
    I’m sure you are sick of hearing this, but swaddling is amazing. Hailey always has and still does scream when we wrap her up, but once she is tightly wrapped and we get her asleep, she sleeps so well. It’s completely normal for them to fight the swaddle at first, but it helps them sleep so much better!

  13. Hiya :) I’m a nanny! Here’s my thoughts/tips/advice:

    -The sleep sheep doesn’t stay on long term; Wyatt may need some white noise. Have you ever noticed he calms down at the sound of some random appliance {hair dryer, vaccuum} or if music is on? I know you mentioned signing and music during the day… If he’s relatively calm during his awake time with sounds and music, this might help!

    -Follow his cues… As SOON as you see him showing signs of being tired, start your naptime/bedtime routine. And I really do mean as SOON as he rubs his eyes, yawns, starts getting fussy. I’ve cared for a couple of babies who if they even became the slightest bit over-tired they slept horribly.

    -He’s only 7 weeks old. In MY opinion, ‘confusing’ him when you let him sleep on you or your hubby isn’t a huge issue… But it can become one. One family I worked for had a rough-sleeper, he was in the cradle, in the crib, in the swing, in the bouncy and as he got older, it was harder and harder to get him to sleep in his crib. TRY to be consistent, but don’t stress yourself over it.

    -I’ve also found that for some babies, especially gassy and refluxy ones, feeding close to bed/nap times is really tough. I rarely ever feed a baby less than 30 minutes before naps. On the flip side of that, I don’t feed them right when they wake, either. For example, baby wakes from his morning nap at 10:30am and will go down for another nap roughly around 12:30/1pm. I try to feed around 11:30am/12pm so they’ll eat 30mins to 1 hour before he goes down again – giving baby time to digest, and pass his gas. He’ll go to sleep not hungry or gassy.

    -And finally, it’s really a phase. Unless something is seriously wrong, this is just one of the many phases {unfortunately} babies go through. Before you know it, he’ll be taking better naps and sleeping longer stretches at night. Try to get sleep when baby sleeps!

    Hope this helps somewhat. Hugs!

  14. I would call a sleep coach or night nurse to get you back to basics. I am 31 weeks pregnant so don’t really have a clue, but my guess is it looks like you’re trying too many things and he doesn’t know what to do. I hope you figure it out or he grows out of it soon!

  15. This sounds a lot like the way my mom described my first month. It turned out I was milk intolerant. She switched from breast feeding to soy formula and didn’t have a problem after that. It might not be the case, but it’s something to consider.

    • I’ve been on a dairy-free diet for 3 weeks. Sigh…

      • I am currently 32 weeks pregnant. I went to a Bradley birthing class last night and we had a nutritionist come speak with us. She said that is takes at least 3 weeks to get rid of the dairy in your body. Hang in there, maybe this week will be the turning point? I have my own issues with dairy and like you am able to consume it during my pregnancy without all the consequences I used to have. She actually suggested to me to eliminate it from my diet at week 35 since dairy issues run in the family. She said I can then test out dairy once we get the hang of breastfeeding and see how it effects baby. Here’s to hoping? You are doing wonderful- may some good sleep be in your very near future.

      • Have you tried eliminating other allergy food sources? Soy, wheat, corn, eggs, and peanuts also can also cause digestive problems for infants. I’m not sure if you have looked at Kelly mom but I found it very helpful with my daughter who had a dairy intolerance:

        http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/food-sensitivity.html

    • My best friend’s baby had the same issues – horrible sleeper, cried ALL the time. They thought it was reflux for a long time but then figured out the baby is lactose intolerant. They switched her to the (expensive) lactose-free formula and she was like a new baby (as was mommy).

      I hope you get some sleep soon! Hang in there!

  16. Hi Jen – Long time reader, first time commenter! First, congratulations on Wyatt – he is beautiful! I could have written the same exact post almost a year ago. Please know that it will get SO much better and these days of no sleep will be long forgotton! My son slept pretty well until he turned 8 weeks old, and then he was up every single hour or two until he was almost 5.5 months old. Have you heard of the Miracle Blanket? It is this crazy awesome swaddle blanket. My son resisted swaddling until we got the Miracle Blanket. Also, have you heard of Colic Calm? It’s all natural gripe water. I thought it made a difference with Hunter and helped him sleep for longer stretches at night. He also had reflux and was extremely gassy.
    And in terms of napping – I was in the same situation with no consistent naps. And most didn’t last longer than 30 minutes! Similar to what Marie G said above, it is important to follow his cues. Hunter ended up needing his first nap only one hour after he woke up in the morning, and once we got the first nap down, he fell into a more consistent napping routine (4 half hour naps until he was almost 7 months).
    I am sorry you are going through this but soon enough it will all be a distant memory. Good luck!

  17. Big hugs! I am sure you are absolutely exhausted. :(

    Is it possible his days and nights are mixed up? I would try put him in his crib for all naps during the day. Have you tries co-sleeping? My first was a pretty bad sleeper so we got a bed rail and co-slept until his sleep habits improved- probably a month or so.

    • I thought so, but he doesn’t sleep much during the day either. And he doesn’t sleep any better when in bed with us. Thanks!

  18. Jen, I am sorry you all (including Wyatt) are having such a rough go of it! Virtual hugs are being sent out for sure from all of us reading your blog. As a 32 week pregnant lady, I have no advice, but definitely sending out prayers for you and your fam. I will pray for an extra measure of strength to get you through this time and hope change will occur soon.

  19. The fisher price rock n play sleeper is AMAZING!! Our 10 wk old does so well in it. Check out the reviews on Amazon…it kind of cradles there little bodies & holds them at an incline, which would be good for reflux. Also, when the baby stirs, it gently rocks as the bottom legs are slightly curved. We love ours!!! It’s my favorite baby item. Good luck!!!

    Ps…we swaddle our daughter (except arms bc she sucks on her fingers) and do the white noise/darkness combo you use

  20. Oh man, I wish I had some good advice for you. I have heard that the hair dryer can work magic and saw that a few people mentioned it already. Anyway, I am ready for a visit this weekend if you are! Of course, if exhaustion takes over, I completely understand if you aren’t up for visitors. Above all, just know that you are doing the best you can – and on so little sleep – you are truly a hero to me!

  21. Also, during the day, I make sure our daughter eats every 3 hrs (timed from start of last feed) which seems to help her get her calories in, yet go a long stretch at night

  22. Had my own terrible sleeper who grew out of it at 4 months and has been a dream ever since. I was like you, tried everything under the sun and nothing worked, she truly just had to grow out of it.

    I would say your immediate concern, though, is your own sleep deprivation which takes an enormous toll. Would it be possible for you to take one night totally off? Have your husband or a relative or friend play “night nurse” and just take something or even leave the house yourself to catch up? I think one night of even 6 hours in a row for you, even if it is just one night, might really help.

    Best of luck. I know it’s a cliche, but it really will pass. You will look back and wonder at how you ever managed, but you will have come through it. You are doing your best and your baby is healthy so that is all that matters.

  23. I can’t remember if you said he’s on a reflux medication. We give Prevacid to our super cranky reflux babies in the NICU. Also, laying them on their left side with a wedge or sandbag behind the back helps hold food in the stomach and keep it away from the esophagus. I realize that’s not “Back to Sleep” appropriate and would really only be advised during supervised, daytime naps.

    Finally, we pull out the big guns and give small doses of GABAPENTIN to our NICU babies when nothing else seems to help their reflux and it starts to lead them to an eating aversion. It’s worth asking your pediatrician about it… or asking your doc to talk to the NICU follow-up clinic at your hospital for advice. I know Wyatt wasn’t in the NICU, but he was a “late pre-term” baby so you should be able to look for alternatives that aren’t used for full-term babies.

    I hope things get better soon!

    • He’s on axid and it helps a bit. His doctor doesn’t want to switch meds until after we do allergy testing in two weeks. Thank you!

  24. My 7 week old daughter loves the Woombie http://www.woombie.com/

    We keep her awake all afternoon

    I”m on a no dairy, wheat, soy diet – that helps her tummy.

    We play the sound machine the entire night – the waves sound

    That’s just what works for us…

    • Wow, no what or soy either? You are strong girl! His doctor doesn’t want me cutting anything else out of my diet before we start allergy testing. Thanks for your suggestions!

      • Well, it helps that my husband is on the same diet. He has a pretty serious wheat allergy so we’re hoping our daughter doesn’t have it when she grows up. I happen to LOVE bread and it doesn’t bother me at all when I eat it. I want my daughter to be able to enjoy food when she’s an adult…

  25. I watched a good friend of mine go thru what you have just described and I don’t know how she or you survived it. I guess you just don’t have a choice! :). Still, you must be exhausted and so frustrated. Hang in there. It turns out that her little boy had serious intolerance to breast milk. She learned this from an allergist and as hard as it was – emotionally – to stop nursing, she gave him a special type of formula and things really improved. I know it might be hard (I pumped for over a year so understand the desire to feed a baby breast milk, but it might be worth a try. Otherwise, let the little guy sleep on his stomach? See if this helps? But I would not swaddle and do the stomach sleeping. Good luck!

  26. My eldest had horrible reflux and as much as I hate to say this the only thing that helped was when I stopped nursing her. In my defense both of her brothers were breastfed well past a year. Our only salvation was that she loved the swing and that is where she slept in the day, at night I always put babies in their cribs. My youngest absolutely refused to sleep on his back and yes I let him sleep on his belly. He was also the weird child that would wake if he got cold, we live in Florida and its not cold here but he slept in more clothes than I have ever put a child in, undershirt, sleepers and sleep sack and a blanket. I get hot just thinking about it. We used to do the fuss for 10 minutes thing then pick them up particulary as they got older. One thing that I could think of was to eleveate the head of the crib and see if that would help him. Sitting him in his seat on the dryer while its’ running sometimes helps, that might be a daytime thing. Sending tons of prayers your way.

  27. Oh Jen, I hope it gets better soon. Here are some thoughts from my own personal experience (with my 16 week old son). What colour are Wyatt’s stools? Are they green and/or frothy? Maybe you’re dealing with a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance. If that’s the case, and he’s getting too much foremilk, he’ll be extra gassy, will constantly snack, and never be sated. It could maybe account for the constant waking (he needs more milk to settle his stomach, but only gets foremilk which compounds the problem).

    If you suspect this may be the issue, talking to a lactation consultant might help. She’ll have helpful tips and what worked wonders for me was using breast compression during feedings. My boy was a super lazy eater and wouldn’t gulp after my letdown, so he wasn’t drinking enough hindmilk. But now his stools are nice and yellow, and he’s SO MUCH HAPPIER.

    As for the sleeping, I was not a fan of co-sleeping before I had my son, but now I live by it. They respond so much to our own breathing, body temperature, etc, that of course they’ll sleep better when they are close to us. And I also don’t believe in “crying it out”. Babies learn independence by first learning trust from their parents, and that means ALWAYS being there when they’re upset.

    I feel for you so much and I hope that things change for the better soon!!! Hope you find the help you need!!!

    • His are orange and seedy! I thought that was the issue too because his nursing sessions are so short, but he’s just efficient according to our lactation consultant.

  28. I really doubt its reflux by itself. You describe in perfect detail my daughter who was diagnosed with reflux and it turned out to be very severe food allergies. I cannot stress to you enough how important it is to consider one trip to the allergist. Even at this young of an age they can do both a quick blood test (the RAST) and also the skin prick test to confirm and expand on the results of the blood test.

    We tried the G.I. route and got nowhere. The moment we learned about how severe her allergies were and we adjusted my diet and hers we saw a 100% improvement in the reflux and gassiness and crankiness (and she slept SO much better). Her soy allergy is so bad she cannot have soy oil or lecithin (although they claim its safe).

    I am not trying to beat a dead animal with how many of these comments I leave but I truly think you’ll see improvement. I absolutely did NOT believe that MY child could have food allergies but I made her suffer because I was too stubborn to admit it might be a possibility. Getting in to see a GOOD Peds Allergist changed her life, I kid you not!

    She is 2 next month and only weighs 20lbs. I wish we’d seen the allergist many many months ago!

  29. I’m so sorry you’re going through this — it sounds brutal.

    I don’t have kids of my own (just a pregnant mama with a bunch of nieces) but I would just suggest not worrying about “how” he’s sleeping — i.e. in his crib vs. in your bed or on you. Have you tried a Moby wrap or anything? One of my nieces napped almost exclusively in her Moby for her first few months.

    Good luck and keep us posted! Thinking of you.

  30. Lady! *HUG* man that is hard.
    With our twins we had one who was a sound sleeper, no issues and one who was just like Wyatt. After trying just about everything we did 2 things, we put him on the reflux meds from the dr (I was anti meds, but ended up giving in) and we also took him to a chiropractor.
    We did both at the same time so I am not sure which one was the trick, or if it was both … but the explanation for chiropractic was that when babies are born (especially those born premature) their internal organs are still falling into position, the esophagus and the stomach can sometimes get pushed into the wrong place causing reflux and gas. With gentle chiropractic work the baby can get aligned correctly so that the organs have room to move into the right place.
    I thought i would share these with you! Something will work and all of this will be behind you soon, I promise.

  31. have you cut out dairy from your diet? must babies with sleep problems (that I know of) have an allergy to something mama is eating; dairy being the most frequent. sometimes there’s an allergy to ALL protein, which gets pretty dicey. i am having #3 in april and i’m not as young as i used to be…. hoping the sleep gods are kind to me and smile upon you SOON, too!

  32. I have no advice at all, but just wanted to say I WISH I could help and I hope things improve soon. And also, I know he’s not BEING cute right now, but he is SO adorable!

  33. Aww I feel for you. I have had some nights like that with my 5-week-old. My advice is to plan to nap for sure during at least one of his naps during the day. I find nights to be way easier if I’m not 100% tired from the night before and a long day. Also, do you have a humidifier? I’ve read that 50% humidity is ideal for sleeping so we leave one on in our room at all times. It also provides a constant (and productive) white noise. And it helps his skin not get as dry. Good luck! I know how frustrating this is!

  34. Wow! I can’t believe you are still sane enough after all that to even type a blog post! When my son was that age (he is 2 now) he was pretty good at sleeping through the night so I don’t have much advice in that way,but he did have problems with napping. The only way Carter would sleep during the day is if he was on my lap. If I put him in the crib, he would wake up right away and be having a fit. I don’t think there is anything wrong with having Wyatt sleep on you, if that is the only way that you can get him to sleep do it! Also, I agree with the other comments Mylicon worked wonders for Carter’s gas!

    Good luck! I hope you can find something that works for you so you can get some well deserved rest!

  35. Fisher Price Snug-A-Bunny or My Little Lamb Cradle and swing (goes side to side not front to back) and simulates a parent’s rocking motion. I swore I’d never use it for real sleep (b/c you’re really not supposed to let a baby sleep in a swing) but our son was such a terrible sleeper and my husband and I gave it a try. He did 3 hour chunks in there for about 4 weeks at which point we then transitioned him back into the newborn napper on the Pack and Play. Then at 9ish weeks, he went into the flat Pack and Play and then at 12 weeks we transitioned him to his crib in his room. He would also nap in the swing up until 3 months. Also, the slightly propped up nature of the cradle in the swing helps to not have them on the back/getting reflux issues. We now have a 5 month old and we’re lucky if we get 5 hour blocks in his crib. Every baby is different and being the way Wyatt is – is not uncommon but very challenging!

  36. Looks like my suggestion of the Miracle Blanket won’t work (depends on the kid, really – my son did really well with it and my daughter HATED it with the fire of a thousand suns). One thing that I tried – and you may or may not want to do it – was that I think I had a bit of oversupply and that was messing with the balance in the breast milk my daughter was getting. She was feeding regularly but because she was getting more “foremilk” than “hindmilk” it was upsetting her tummy. You can read more about it on Kelly Mom but basically instead of switching sides with each feeding you stay on the same side for two feedings in a row and then switch to the other side with the third feeding (and so on). It is a bit uncomfortable at first but for us it made a bit of a difference.

    Have to be honest though – both of my kids were terrible sleepers (my daughter had colic so I can relate to what you’re going through). While it doesn’t help you now to know it – they will eventually figure it out and realize that sleep is a good thing. My daughter is almost 3 now and will actually tell us when she wants to take a nap or go to bed – it’s crazy!

    • I did have an oversupply issue that was causing him to gag! I only nurse him off one breast and that breast only for a 3 hour stretch. This- plus stopping pumping and returning to exercise- seems to have made my supply more “normal”, though. Thank you! It does help to know that others have been here, too.

  37. Im a first time commenter as well. I have a 3 year old and 1 year old and with both I’ve used methods from the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. Like one of your previous commenters said the author of this book, Dr. Marc Weissbluth is a big believer in no more than two hours of wakefulness for little babies. My little guy sometimes couldn’t even make it to two hours. And as soon as you start noticing sleep cues (rubbing eyes, etc.) you start soothing him to sleep. He might not sleep long but the idea is that sleep breeds sleep and keeping him on a consistent schedule of waking, feeding, playing sleeping should help him sleep better at night. I cannot say enough good things about this book; it takes you all the way through teenagers but puts a huge emphasis on babies/toddlers so you set a good sleep foundation.

    Good luck and hang in there. It sounds like you are trying everything so I hope this helps :)

    • I’m in the process of reading the book now! The only issue I’m having is how can you force a baby to take a nap? I get recognizing his cues but I can’t force him to sleep.

      • For my first baby, I would just lay him down and he went to sleep – he spoiled me – ha! Then my second baby as soon as I would lay him down his eyes would pop open (every baby’s different right?). I just kept being consistent. Sometimes it would be 30 minutes, sometimes 45, every nap varied. I just kept at it and had to do tons of soothing techniques for him as well; Miracle Blanket, paci, rock, butt pat :). Craaazy! He also went through that super fussy phase that Dr. Weisbluth talks about until about 7 weeks. i just kept being consistent and telling myself it would pay off and around 2 months he started napping better.

        Just hang in there, sleep deprivation is so hard on you and baby. Remember to take care of yourself, even if your husband could take Wyatt out during the day and you could nap then.

    • I also am a first time commenter. I also was going to suggest this book. I’m 29wks pregnant with my first so I have no real advice (and assume in a few short months I will be seeking tons from you expert new moms :) ), but I am reading the book as several friends have sworn by it. On p.126, there is a “needs to nap, but refuses to nap” section and story. I can’t imagine yet how hard it is to listen to your baby scream, but it seems that after a while (maybe a few days) they figure it out, sleep, go to bed early, and are happier. Again, I have no idea what it’s really like and feel weird even commenting, but I just read that part and thought it might be helpful. Also, it seems the early bed time, though counter-intuitive, is the trick to staying asleep and sleeping later. He suggests anywhere from5:30 to 7 in most cases because once they are overtired, they can’t sleep. I know this will be hard for us since my hubby don’t get home until 7ish most nights, but I think he will just have to capitalize on morning or weekend time instead if it means a more rested baby. Good luck!

  38. I so wish I had some sort of advice for you. I don’t have any children of my own, so I’m not in a position to be of any help. When I read this post, I literally teared up…I could just hear the frustration coming through your words. I can’t imagine what you are going through right now. All I can say is my heart goes out to you, and I really do hope things improve soon. Hang in there…this will pass.

  39. Have you tried putting him down for the night earlier? It sounds counterintuitive, I know… later = more tired = more sleep in our adult minds. But when my son had trouble STTN it was suggested that we put him to bed an hour or hour and a half earlier than we had been. By the time these little folks are OVERtired, it takes them too long to settle and the whole night is restless. 9pm seems so late for such a little guy. My son’s bedtime had been 8pm (in the crib) but when we moved it closer to 7pm, he did much better. Even now that he’s 3 1/2, he functions better–falls asleep and stays asleep longer–if he’s in bed between 7:30 and 8pm.

    • This is something we’re working on. My husband doesn’t get home until after 8, and he likes to be part of bedtime. I need to try putting him down earlier though.

  40. wish I had something wise to offer but we also had daytime nap issues (though he was mostly a good night sleeper, so not the same). However, the more they sleep during the day, the better they sleep at night. Sounds counter-intuitive, but it made a lot of sense for him. Hope you get somewhere, cause that’s brutal…

  41. Hi!

    I am so sorry you are going through this. It will get better! I have a 4 month old son too who has reflux. It is so hard to watch them in pain. We just started using Zantac and he seems to be better.

    I know you said he doesn’t like being swaddled, but I think babies fight it for a little bit at first. But after they are relaxed and sleeping it really prevents them from waking themselves up. It needs to be SUPER tight though. We found that the velcro swaddles (made by SwaddleMe) are awesome. You can buy them at Target or Babies R Us. He fought a little when we first put him in, but he sleeps pretty well in them. We get anywhere from 5-8 hour stretches with them (we started from week 3). Also, I downloaded “White Noise For Babies” for Itunes and put it on my Ipod touch. When he is having trouble sleeping I turn it on repeat and place the ipod in the crib (not too close to him, but near). This will usually put him to sleep in less than a minute, and it will keep going as long as you want!

    Also, I noticed in one of the pictures you have a Wubbanub pacifier. We use those too, and I actually tuck it into the swaddle so he doesn’t loose it right away.

    I hope this is helpful. Email me if you want any more advice!

    • He fights the swaddle most when he wakes up in the middle of the night! Great idea with the wubbanub! Love it :)

      • Hmmm….maybe try a few nights with the velcro swaddle, white noise and pacifier tucked in. I had to keep trying it before it became our routine.

        Also, the book “Babywise” was awesome for us. I used it more for a loose basis on how to set our schedule. Once Raj (our son) started to get used to the routine it really helped him to sleep better. He eats right after he wakes up, then has some awake/play time, then he sleeps. At 7 weeks he was never awake for more than about an hour during the day. Also, this way I am not feeding him to get him to go to sleep, so he doesn’t think food=sleep.

        • Thank you! He’s tucked in with the velcro swaddle and white noise right now!

          Re: the Babywise schedule. He always falls asleep nursing. Sometimes it’s only a minute or two, but I have a hard time playing with him after nursing. His natural schedule is more sleep, play, eat and I’m having a hard time breaking that.

          • Yea! My fingers are crossed for you that the velcro swaddle and the while noise are helpful. Even if it is only a 2-3 hour stretch- that would be an improvement!

            My son would fall asleep while eating too. It was so frustrating. It took him a little while to be big enough to be able to stay awake. Maybe once he starts sleeping more at night he will be able to stay awake after eating?

            I thought about you tonight as we were putting our little one to sleep. He is getting over being sick and has had a terrible time falling asleep. Tonight we swaddled, him, had white noise and the pacifier and it still took 40 minutes for him to fall asleep. I guess sometimes even the best “routines” fail. You just have to keep trying! :-)

  42. Reading this post reminds me so much of when my daughter was born. I have read just about every sleep book on the market and I’m convinced you can try so many different things, but in reality some babies are just much better sleepers than others. My daughter is almost two and for the first several months of her life she slept on either myself or my husband pretty much exclusively. She had horrible gas and reflux and could not sleep on her own. It was exhausting, frustrating, and I would spend many days crying because of how tired I was all the time. I really just learned to cope with very little sleep and then finally at about 8 months we let her cry it out some and it worked a bit. She still isn’t a great sleeper – she wakes up between 4:30 – 5:30am every single morning no matter what time we put her to bed. Even though I don’t have much advice for how to get him to sleep better, I can promise you that you are in the worst of it right now. It will get better as he gets older. I hear from so many other moms about how great their kids sleep and it’s so hard not to think I did something wrong. But you really are doing everything you can do. You will go through many different stages of sleep and sleep problems (things like teething, sickness, travel etc. always seem to disrupt things just when we’ve got a good routing going). I know somedays it feels like you simply can’t go on this exhausted. One thing that did help was splitting up the night in shifts. My husband took 10pm-2am and I would sleep. Then I’d get up at 2 and take the couch shift with her while he slept for a few hours. I was breastfeeding but she could usually make it that stretch after she was a couple of months old so I could get at least 4-5 hours of consistent sleep or I’d pump extra the day before and hubby would give her a bottle. It was amazing just to know that no matter what else, I’d at least have that stretch. Good luck to you, he is a cutie!

  43. Our 10-week old used to do the same. I never produced enough milk, so he had a few weeks of breast milk and supplementing.. and then we switched him to formula full-time. As soon as we did, he had the worst gas and never used to sleep more than 45mins to an hour. =( When we switched formulas from the soy to sensitive, it got a lot better to the point where his issues are basically eliminated now. He started sleeping a 5 hour stretch at about 6-7 weeks, and right now it’s up to 7-8 hours.

    I do feel bad you have to go through it.. I know I didn’t know if I could make it much longer when his tummy was at its worst. I hope his reflux gets better soon… his tummy is probably what keeps him awake so much.

    • Oh.. our guy hates swaddling too, but he LOVES white noise. We found nature sounds tracks specifically for fussy babies on zune and put it on for his nap/sleep time. He loves loves loves it and sleeps much better with them on. Also works when he gets fussy.

    • I’m going to ask his doctor about switching to formula at his next appointment. I don’t want to stop nursing, but it might be best. Thank you!

  44. My kids are older now, but when they were young, I relied on a book called Healthy Sleep Healthy Child. It was a lifesaver from the time the kids were infants until the kids were in early childhood. It may be worth seeing if the library has the book. Good luck!!

  45. You might want to add some formula to his feedings a time or two during the day. He might not be getting “full” enough on just breast milk. We had that problem with our daughter.
    Also, get some white noise! It will do wonders!!! Our 3 year old still has it in her room. Makes a huge huge difference. We use a humidifier and a fan for constant noise.
    Good luck.
    It is so hard in the beginning!!!

    • He’s gaining more than enough weight according to his doctor, but I’ll ask him about switching off with formula. Thank you! :)

  46. Greetings fellow zombiemom! We were up every hour last night too. Although that is NOT the norm for us, and I’ve been relatively lucky in the sleep department. I know you are getting tons of advice here, so here are just a few things that work for us.

    1. Swaddling in blankets did NOT work at all, because they bust out of them so easily, and they fight them going on. We use the Swaddle Me sacks with velcro, and they are amazing. Calms him down really quickly.

    2. Sleep sheep is way too quiet for us. LOUD white noise makes a big difference. The louder the better!

    3. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You are clearly a WONDERFUL mom because you care so much about helping him get a good night’s rest. I wish I was still in Charlotte and could come rock him for a few hours so you could get a nap!

    xoxo

  47. Sorry things are so tough and I hope you find some solutions or something that helps soon. Things that I think might help is to find something (1 or 2 things at most per night within reason of course) and be consistent until you know how he responds. Try to do the same thing every night for ~ a 3-4 days (ie. only sleep in car seat or only in crib elevated) so you can be sure how he responds. At least when he does grow out of it (and he will), you all will have some type of consistency and it will make the next stage easier.

    Also understanding his cries might help as it did with our new one. Here is a link to try where you can listen. http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Amazing-Medical-Breakthroughs/1 Our current baby didn’t sound exactly like each of the cries listed but she was consistent about each of her cries (didn’t try with the twins because I hadn’t heard about it). Our baby had specific cries early on pretty consistently and it helped me determine what she probably needed.

    Also talk to your doctor about placing him on stomach for sleep. I know it isn’t recommended but my brother had two babies the same way (they had burp rags there was so much coming up and that’s what their doctor actually recommended to do all the time, even night). One other thought, I’ve had a lot of friends that have used the car seat religiously for the first few months after feeding and for night sleeping. It would swaddle but not constrict him and keep him upright. He should improve as he gains more trunk strength as it will help the digestive system normalize. Good luck and ask for rest help too! Look for me on twitter if you want anymore help (I don’t hear back but I know you are busy…)

    • Thank you for all of this! I asked his doctor about stomach sleeping and got a “no”. :( I definitely need to be more consistent and try everything new 3-4 times.

  48. Aw sweetie – it sounds like you are doing such a great job and the best you can!

    Here in Germany they recommend fennel tea for babies – sounds weird but they swear by it here for digestive problems. It’s just regular mild unsweetened fennel tea, fed with a bottle…

    Also Osteopathy! I have heard SO many stories of babies who had slight osteopathic adjustments and turned a 180 – supposedly correcting slight pressure points/misalignments in the skull. Who knows – might also be worth a try. Those are my two cents – wish you the BEST of luck!

    He’s a beautiful little boy! You will sleep again!!

    Emily

    • Oh interesting about fennel tea! My husband is a chiropractor and adjusts him. It doesn’t seem to help yet though. Thank you!

  49. I don’t have time to read thru the other comments but if noone has mentioned it – The Baby Sleep Solution book helped us a lot. It’s promise is to have your baby sleeping 12 hours a night by 12 weeks. My little girl is 3.5 months & sleeps 10-11 hours. Worth a shot!

  50. I’ve got 8.5 week old twin boys, so I have some idea what you are going through right now! The longest stretch of sleep they have is 4 hours in the night (from 10:30-2:30) and other than that, they eat every three hours.They have been really gassy and fussy since week 6 but it seems to be getting better. I agree with Marie on following cues and making sure they don’t stay awake longer than 90 – 120 minutes. As soon as we notice that they start to be a little less active, make less noise or yawn a few times, we swaddle them and put them in their crib. Also, I read in “12 Hours by 12 weeks” (which would be a MIRACLE from my stanpoint right now) that a lot of babies go through a tough time during weeks 6 – 8 (or even through week 10) and get really gassy and fussy even if they were great sleepers and not gassy prior to week 6. Good luck – it can be frustrating, but you are doing great!

    • Oh interesting. I’m praying he’s just in the 6-8 week fussy phase and gets better. I’ll look into that book. Thank you so much.

  51. He sounds a lot like a couple of my boys, who were very fussy during their first 6 months or so. One of mine needed me to stop drinking milk, the other just took time to get more mature before he’d sleep better. Hang in there! You’ll make it! Some things that may help:
    - lie down every day for an hour if you can
    - take him for a walk outside each day
    - chocolate–for you. It’s medicinal, you know! :)

    All the best,
    Mary, momma to 10, all of whom sleep well now. (But boy, I remember some tired months….)

  52. Oh and maybe an earlier bedtime? My little girl goes to bed at 6 and that’s when she gets her long stretch. If we keep her up she still wakes up at the same time the next day.

    • I’m trying the earlier bedtime. He went down at 7:30 tonight and has already been up 4 times. Sigh. I’m going to keep trying though!

  53. Well… I’m reading this as a new mom of a 6 week old little girl. I am as interested in the comments as you are. Hopefully there is a mom out there with some magic advice! Having a newborn that won’t sleep is harder than I could have ever planned for. The only thing that has helped our little night owl is swaddling. She hates it… but I read that you should do it anyway because it helps. She fought it for the first few days (I started with a sleep sack early last week) but it gradually seems to be helping. It’s the only thing I have changed… and I am suddenly getting up to 3 hours of sleep a night. Hang in there fellow zombie mom… someday we will look back on this and laugh. Maybe.

  54. My cousin’s baby has reflux, too, and a humidifier has worked very well for them, for some reason. Good luck!

  55. Mom of two here, 4 years and 5 months. I’m not going to lie, that’s a rough routine there! You must feel like a zombie! Like many other suggestions, I would try a sleep machine. I used it with my older child and currently use it with my baby. No matter what, just keep trying, you’ll figure out what works for you and your little man.

  56. I am also a mom of two; now 17 and 11. Both my children had a very hard time sleeping and your schedule looks very familiar. I learned that there were behavioral issues that were contributing to the sleep problems in my case. My daughter had surgery at 2 weeks and had a great deal of difficulty breathing at night. I sat up and held her through the night and I almost went psychotic, not to mention that I’m sure it was not safe. I read this book and it saved my life (http://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Sleep-Habits-Happy-Child/dp/0345486455/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1326330978&sr=8-1). I learned that everyone including infants frequently awaken in the night and they do have to learn to put themselves back to sleep. There are developmental considerations and he is definitely not a ‘cry it out’ person. I thought his approach was extremely sensitive and research based. He also has some chapters on modifications/considerations for children with medical issues, so this may help with adaptations. I hope you get relief. It really did affect me and was one of the most difficult times of my life, especially while trying to take care of my older child and work. But, it does really, really get better. Best of luck to you.

    • Would you mind sharing what behavioral issues they had? I’m reading that book now! Thank you. :)

      • I’m sorry to sound so vague with the behavioral issues. What I should have clarified was that the sleep environment that I created (though understandably with the difficulty breathing etc) was creating a context that was not conducive to sustained sleep. By holder my daughter through the night she became accustomed to being held through the night, rocked or nursed at the slighted awakening etc. These did call for behavioral changes. However this is all predicated on the fact that you have to consider the child’s age (my daughter was older at this point) and your unique child’s issues. I’m so glad you are reading this book. I literally sat down in Barnes and Noble and read most of the book on the ground when I first found it. I really felt much better having a conceptual framework. You will get through this!!

  57. I am so sorry. Reflux is awful. My now 10-month-old baby was diagnosed with GERD and severe milk and soy protein allergies. I had to cut all dairy and soy out of my diet, and we also had to use reflux medicines. We started with Zantac and worked our way up to PPIs like Prevacid. It’s amazing when he’s on the right combination and dosage of meds, especially when he was a newborn – he slept, he was content, it was like a miracle. Be aggressive with the pediatrician if you feel that he or she does not understand the extent of your baby’s suffering. Also, initial testing for milk protein allergy is easy – they have little cards they can put a bit of stool on, and it changes color if it detects blood (a symptom of this type of allergy). Good luck!

    • His doctor is starting allergy testing on him at his two month appointment. I’ve heard milk and soy go together sometimes. I haven’t cut out soy and wonder if I should have! Thank you.

  58. Congrats on your gorgeous son! I had 2 very similar non sleepers. For my youngest, this was my saving grace. I kept it right next to my bed and it was the ONLY place she would actually sleep aside from on or next to me or my husband. Mine has been passed onto several friends and they all swear by it too.

    http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Soothing-Motions-Glider-Butter/dp/B000B4SVM4/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1326331468&sr=8-2

    I hope things get better. I can look back now and smile, but I sure struggled with the lack of sleep. One thing is true – it won’t last forever – they really do grow up fast!

  59. My little one is 10 weeks and we found a few things that help… Prior to sleeping inher crib, she slept in the fisher price rock n play in our room and slept great. Now we put her in her crib and use either Halo sleep sack – the one with the velcro arms to swaddle, or we use the woombie – which is supposed to mimic the womb, and I think help with colicky babies using these swaddling gizmos, our little one sleeps pretty great! Good luck.

  60. Another nanny here– I wanted to agree with all of the recommendations of putting him down earlier for the night and the second he seems sleep during the day. I have yet to work with a child who did not follow the “sleep breeds sleep” adage so even getting one good nap could be a great starting point. If putting him down earlier works then you and your husband can work on finding a routine for the day that works for everyone but sometimes making the sacrifice for a few days of them not seeing as much of one another is worth it.

    Also, for babies who hate being swaddled but still flail a lot I lay a receiving blanket out when I start to rock them to sleep and while I am still holding them I wrap their body with it as much as I can and then finish wrapping them once they are in the crib (it is definitely not an official swaddle), I then take a stretchy one (like a muslin) and tuck it in on both sides of the crib over them. Cutting down on flailing seems to go a long way towards keeping them asleep.

    My last suggestion is to plan on taking shifts, at night– you should go to bed at 7 and stay there until midnight while your husband cares
    for Wyatt, a 5 hour stretch of sleep is going to make a big difference for you. Pump and leave a bottle or two for them put on white noise for yourself and crash. Your husband can still get a decent nights sleep if he goes to bed at 12 if you are on baby duty the rest of the night.

    I wish you the best of luck! I know it is beyond exhausting and frustrating when sleep is so out of whack for all of you! It absolutely will get better though!

  61. Oh you poor thing! I can’t imagine how you must be feeling going on this little sleep for so long. Do you have a family member/ friend that can come stay with you and get up with Wyatt during the night so you can get at least ONE good nights sleep? I know it won’t solve your problems long term, but you will be amazed how much better you will feel after a good nights sleep. Heck, I remember how much better I felt the first time my little one slept 5 hours straight! Even 5 little hours will make you feel like a new woman. I know this can be difficult when you are nursing. I agree with what the others have said about a sound machine. We have either used a sound machine or air purifier for white noise since he was born. I swear by that thing. A friend of mine also recommended a book “The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems” by Tracy Hogg. It really helped me with sleep issues that popped up here and there. I hope you get some well deserved rest soon!

  62. I’m pregnant now with my first so I don’t really have any advice, but my sister swears by Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child. She had a lot of trouble with my niece until she discovered the book. I guess my niece was basically just not getting enough sleep which made her overtired and then she couldn’t fall asleep. After she read the book, my sister started putting my niece down at 5 or 6pm and she would sleep until 6am. At the time I thought it was crazy she was putting her to bed so early, but now that I’m pregnant I am definitely planning on at least trying the techniques.

  63. Awww, virtual hug! As I west as reading, it sees like you have thought of everything I would have suggested, or what the sleep books say. I have read several of the sleep books out there (The Sleep Easy Solution, recently downloaded for kindle, is by FAR my fave), and while many offer different approaches, one thing they all write in common is that you can not spoil a baby under the age of 3-4 months; they can not form bad habits at this point, so however you can get them to sleep, and stay sleeping, do it.
    The only thing I can think of, if you haven’t already talked to your pediatrician, mention it to him/her. I know that the dose of certain reflux meds can change as a baby grows–and since he is a growing baby, perhaps he has outgrown his old dose and is in need of more reflux med, or a different one?
    You are doing a great job, and I hope you are trying to take some time to yourself–even if it is just for an hour or two, accept any babysitting help you can get!
    I hope this passes soon! We thought we were getting into a good phase with Maya, until she was hit with the double whammy of teething and a cold (nasal congestion & cough), making sleeping nearly impossible. It just breaks my heart to hear her suffer during the night, but all I can do is give her saline spray in her nose and keep the humidifier running, and pray that they both will be over soon!

    Jen

    • I had not even thought that his medicine dose need adjusting! What a good idea. He’s gained 3lbs since it was prescribed. Calling his doctor in the morning. Thanks friend :)

  64. *hugs* to you and your hubby. I don’t have any new ideas for you to try. I can say being the mother of 2 daughters that are now 23 and 18, I was 16 when I had my first daughter who was a horrible sleeper for 2 years! .I thought I was gonna lose my mind during that time! Sometimes I think its just different personalities..since my youngest daughter was a great sleeper and slept the entire night from 6 weeks old

  65. I can completely emphasize with you, Jen. My daughter is 5 months old, but for the first two months of her life, she hardly slept at all. She was also a reflux baby and I remember so well looking for that “magical” answer. Like Wyatt, she hated the swaddle (we tried every brand out there!). I guess I just wanted to write to you to say every baby IS different and it DOES get better. Something just clicked around 8 weeks. So, this too shall pass. I know all you want right now is the answer, but I promise you’ll look back at this time and will forget how awful it was. Hang in there – praying for you guys!

  66. :( I wish I had answers for you. I’ll just pray you start getting more sleep!

  67. Just wanted to send a little love your way~ XOXO! You’re doing a great job by just being his mother and caring for him like no one else could.
    If you’d like maybe I could come down one day and just hang with the little man while you get some sleep.
    Saying extra prayers for you guys.

    • Oh and, as long as you’re okay with it, I think it is totally fine to sleep with baby when they’re that young, especially when born early like Wyatt. We had to travel during Rileys first 2 months of life and at times I didn’t have a choice but to let her sleep with us. I would let her fall asleep on my chest (one of the best feelings ever!) and she would actually sleep pretty good. Not sure if you would sleep well this way, or if you’d be comfortable. I totally understand that some people are hard sleepers so don’t trust themselves to do this and/or wouldn’t be able to sleep themselves, but just thought i’d share some thoughts. You never know what can help.
      I actually remember reading somewhere that some researchers feel babies are meant to be in the womb for 2 months longer, hence why some babies are so fussy their first few months of life. I don’t know- random, but who knows ;) lol

      Again, thinking of you and hope you get some answers soon.

      • Just to chime in here, my kids always slept better when they were near me. We started out co-sleeping for the first month or so, then shifted to a pack-n-play right beside the bed. It seemed to me that by reacting to their first light wakenings, that they wouldn’t actually wake all the way up, so we could nurse and fall back to sleep a lot more easily. Also, I have found that having something that was scented like me in the crib helped a lot. It sounds weird, but it did work. I would wear a swaddle blanket under my shirt for a couple hours and then use it for bedtime that night.

        That said, every baby is different and what works wonders for one mama or even with one sibling is going to be rubbish for another. Sending my best wishes for sweet dreams for both you and Wyatt. I do second the recommendation to have someone else take night duty for a night. Also, if you are able to nap (in a specially darkened room if necessary) during the day when he’s awake and happy with someone else, then that can go a long way to lessening your sleep deprivation gap. Be well and don’t expect too much of yourself during this time.

        - Katherine mama of four wildly different kidlets (They all do sleep now, though!)

        • I’ve been bringing him in bed with me half way through the night because I’m too tired to keep getting up! He honestly isn’t sleeping any better :( Thanks so much!

  68. You’ve gotten lots of great advice up above, so I’m just going to give you some {{hugs}} and sympathy. My now 10 year old was an awful sleeper. AWFUL. And I’m convinced it had to do with his personality. Nothing I did made a darn bit of difference. On the bright side, we did all survive and now he’s a great sleeper. I know it doesn’t make today easier, but it will end and someday you won’t remember exactly how bad it was. ;o) And for the record, his younger brother slept through the night at just a few weeks old and I did nothing different. Hang in there.

  69. Ugh, it is such a puzzle this sleep thing. And the reflux piece makes it trickier. It is so hard and such a mind game to “get it right” and have the perfect sleep situation….what works today, especially at only 7 weeks, may not work tomorrow.

    With our first I made her CIO at around 5 months. It worked for her and she started to sleep 12 hr stretches from about 7months. *no, we didn’t do CIO for 2 months straight, but we did a major bootcamp of it that first week and made adjustments along the way.

    With our second I am less inclined to let her CIO. She’s already 8 months old, but not close to sleeping 12hrs uninterrupted. Heck, she isn’t even doing 7hrs uninterrupted :) I do know that for her it helped in those early weeks to let her sleep on her side. I know, we’re not supposed to do that, I also know we’re not supposed to let them sleep on their tummies but guess how she sleeps best now? *she can roll over so I know it’s not a big deal.

    What worked for us this time around (and we’re still working on it):

    1. Swaddling. She was swaddled for months, seriously. Well into her 5th month she was swaddled. They may seem to hate it, but I really think it’s the restlessness of wanting to fall asleep that is the problem.
    2. Feed him more. If he’s crying like that at this age, he’s hungry. If he won’t take the paci or a finger it’s because sucking on them doesn’t get him the milk he wants. Just feed him. You aren’t causing any bad habits.
    3. Without obsessing about it, try to keep a 2-hr max wake time schedule. You can’t force him to sleep but you can set in motion a routine of sorts so that he eventually gets to where he knows “oh, I feel tired, now is when I lay in my bed and rest” and he will come to expect sleep (this will make you a slave to the nap, but it’s a good thing). And put him down in his crib as consistently as you can, let him nurse to fall asleep, make it as comfortable and soothing for him as possible.
    4. Earlier bedtime. 7pm is even late for a bedtime, especially with the low amount of sleep he’s getting and the fact that his day starts around 7am. I get it that your husband wants to be part of the routine, but it’s not about either one of you – baby Wyatt needs his sleep. Daddy can do the first nighttime wake up or something, you know?
    5. Letting go. Just let go, quit trying to force it. He’s only 7 weeks old, there isn’t going to be any sort of predictable anything going on for months. Who says he “should” be able to go for a longer stretch? He was born early, had trouble nursing off the hop and has reflux – none of these things fall into the equation of making a baby who should be able to do any sort of “normal” sleeping.

    I hope I’m not sounding harsh, I just think that exhaustion has sent logic out the window and I remember that stage all too well. Don’t buy anything new. Don’t go to that Oprah website, don’t watch the DVD about understanding what your baby is “saying” with their cries (trust me, I bought it and it did nothing for us – I can send it to you if you want). Just try to take a step back and stop trying to fit him into the “7-week-old milestones” box. If he sleeps best with you, let him. If he wants to nurse every.time.he.wakes.up let him, and you won’t have to give him formula if you do. He’s 7 weeks old, there are no bad habits and no such thing as too much time getting physical contact. He’ll thrive from it…and eventually you’ll be able to transfer him to that crib, eventually he will sleep for longer, eventually YOU will sleep too. I promise.

    Good luck.

  70. Jen- Just a thought…..but what about letting him sleep in his swing? This way his head is propped a little bit more and he isn’t lying flat on his back (which seems like it may make the reflux worse). Our son slept in his swing for the first 3-4 months of his life and then we transitioned to the crib. I also swear by those Halo sleep sacks. They are awesome!!!

    • He never sleeps in his swing. He really isn’t any more comfortable being elevated unless he’s on his stomach. He’s wearing his Halo tomorrow!

  71. I have no child experience, but my close friend and mother of two SWEARS by the book ‘The No Cry Sleep Solution’. http://www.amazon.com/No-Cry-Sleep-Solution-Gentle-Through/dp/0071381392/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1326372824&sr=1-1 She gives it as a gift to every new mom. May be worth a shot!

  72. My son is 2 1/2 weeks old right now ao I feel your pain with sleep deprivation. Our daughter had reflux and also flailed. We bought a Miracle Blanket and that helped her a lot; she resisted it for the first few times but by about our 3rd or 4th time using it she would actually stop fussing when we would put her down on it to swaddle her. Once we started using that we noticed her sleep durations increased at night. Good luck–it’s hard for sure, and you will get through it…I hope Wyatt is like my daughter–by 3 or 4 months old her reflux was undercontrol and she was off meds and sleeping much better.

  73. Hi. I think he may be in need of a medication change. Most pediatricians now use ranitidine as first line for reflux, and then move on to a PPI such as omeprazole or pantaprazole. Does simethicone 1/2 hour before a feed do anything for him?

  74. Also, I second the above re: allergies. He may need an elemental formula like Neocate Jr. or Elecare.

  75. My sister has a bean bag (a really big one that is super comfy) that she put my nephew in once, he loved it and it became his bed for awhile. It’s huge-like 5 times a regular one and he sleeps at an angle, sort of sitting up. He sleeps really well in it (well, now he is in his regular crib) and never had a problem. You could try that?

    Also, he likes a blanket they call taggy. It’s a regular blanket with lots of different ribbons and different textures attached to the sides. He has to sleep with it now, it soothes him. Does he have a favorite blanket yet or toy that you can keep within holding distance of him?

  76. well, you’re probably advice-d out. My Corine is 12 weeks old. We went through a miserable bout of colic (no reflux tho). No sleep, lots of tears from me& baby, and PPD landed me in the dr’s office. 2 things worked for the gas:
    1) prescription for simethicone (Gas-x) in drop form
    2) holding her on her tummy then side, in one arm with her face/head in the crook of my elbow, hand cradling her crotch (make sense?) my husband & i would walk & shh her in a cool quiet space. then she’d pass gas & fall asleep eventually.

    I understand you & hear you. I just said a prayer for you too. Wyatt will be independent for 80+ years. This is only a very short time. That doesn’t help with the horrible effects of sleeplessness, I KNOW, but when things start to get easier, it may.

    Keep us updated. I know I’m concerned & pulling for ya;)

  77. Also one more thought…my husband is a chiropractor too. However, we bring our daughter to a pediatric chiro. She’s a baby specialist. Plus, it helps if someone with different “energy” adjusts her. Maybe your husband is too “close” to her – if that makes sense. We googled Ped. Chiro and found a good one.

    • Very interesting! I’m going to ask my husband’s boss to adjust him. If that doesn’t work, we’ll look into a pediatric chiro. Thanks so much for the idea!

  78. I don’t have advice, as my baby is still in my belly, but I feel for you! That situation sounds tough! Hang in there

  79. Moms on Call is a company I’ve heard referred to many times in the blog world. http://blueeyedbride.com/2011/06/30/checking-in/ They are supposed to be very very helpful! Might be worth looking into.

    And although it was 28 years ago, my parents used to put me in the baby carrier and put me on top of the running dryer (supervised obvi). They said the motion and noise soothed me and it sounds like Wyatt and I have a lot about our infant days in common.

  80. I feel the pain!! We have a CD player that is on repeat with soothing music for my guy. He does seem to like it and now asks for it to be put on before he crawls into bed. He also has gas issues and I found that this did help him (moreso than the drops in the store). http://www.colicease.com/ He could just be growing as well which could account for the sudden change. It too will pass :)

  81. I feel for you! Our daughter is 9 weeks this week and we are going on week 2 1/2 of her sleeping a 6 hour stretch at night. It will happen for you guys. Any day I am sure, stay strong and know you are doing all the right things!

  82. We did a modified Babywise routine with our newborn. she is twelve weeks old this week, born a week early, has been sleeping 10pm-6am since she was 7-8 weeks old. Since its my first and she has been relatively easy I can’t contribute it to completely to babywise, but she sure is a textbook case. I have been reading another book by Dr. Weissbluth (sp?) about sleep training and healthy sleep habits. One thing I took away from it was that over stimulation doesn’t necessarily mean too much of something going on, but the duration of being awake even its quiet/no tv etc can till be overstimulating when a baby has been up too long. Also noted that babies should be put down to nap before they even show signs of tiredness (which we don’t do). This dr says that babies don’t sleep because they are over tired. I don’t know because everything says something different so I’m just trusting my gut, but I thought I would throw that out there in case any of it helps!

  83. I just read through all the comments hoping to get some advice for us too! I am a new mom of a 3 month old who slept pretty well until a few weeks ago. Then a bunch of things happenend at once- he started getting really tired and putting himself to bed around 7 instead of his previous bedtime of 9, he went through what we think was his 3 month growth spurt, he started having really bad gas, and I went back to work full time. We also tried weaning him off his swaddle during this time, which, now that I’m writing this, seems like it was a bad idea in the midst of all this change! He also never really liked his swaddle necessarily and often seemed mad and would try to fight out of it, but slept much better in it than out of it. The one arm swaddle seemed like it was going well for awhile but last night we caved and resumed the full swaddle. I always recommend giving swaddling a go, we use the SwaddleMe ones, but it doesn’t work for everyone.

    Not sure what is going to help my little man sleep better, but what’s really helping me right now is the mantra “it won’t always be like this.” As in, we won’t always be up all night and he won’t always be so fussy and cranky, but he also won’t always be this little and won’t always need me like he does now. I find myself saying it out loud during nighttime feedings just to try and keep some perspective. And you’ve gotten some good advice about asking for help. It’s hard to do, it took me months to ask my husband to help with nighttime feedings because I wanted to feel like I could do it all myself. Good luck, it will get better- at least that’s what I hear!

  84. Oh, I so feel for you! My daughter was a terrible sleeper too… she also woke up screaming, so I never felt like cry-it-out was an option (although 7 weeks is too young for that anyway, i think)… I didn’t take the time to read every comment, but it looks like you’ve been given some great suggestions. I found out too that an over-tired baby would sleep worse, but it was sometimes impossible to get her to nap well enough or sleep enough to NOT be overtired by bedtime. I would continue to do whatever it is that works–my daughter happened to sleep best in her swing, but we didn’t use it at night b/c I thought I wasn’t “supposed” to, and in hindsight, that seems so silly if it would have gotten us a little more sleep! Are you opposed to co-sleeping? Some babies really need that extra assurance that you’re nearby. Again, I no you might not want to start bad habits, but I think it’s worth trying whatever you can. I saw a few people recommend a sleep counselor… there is one website I found really helpful, I never “hired” her but I read lots of the free articles… it’s http://www.babysleepsite.com/ Good luck! With the fussiness, we tried gripe water, etc too and nothing really seemed to work, but something clicked when she hit 3 months and the gassiness was much better. Sleep was still not great, but it helped to have a happier baby. Hang in there!! And good for you for reaching out for help… isn’t it amazing how many moms can relate? I always felt like EVERYBODY else had a dream sleeper! :)

  85. I feel awful for you having to go through this. My daughter is 8 weeks old and (knock on wood) we are so far very lucky that she’s a champion sleeper at night. Not a day goes by I don’t thank god for that and think about how rough it can be in a situation like yours. To echo a few other comments, read the Weissbluth book- which I think you’ve said you are. It’s pretty much been my bible and I fully believe that sleep breeds sleep. If your kiddo can get one good night under his belt with a 4-5 hour stretch I’d bet things would turn around completely. I read that book while I was pregnant and an interesting point he makes is that if your baby is born before 40 weeks then you have to wait until you get to your actual due date to start looking for the sleep pattern development. So if Wyatt was born at about 37 weeks you are basically dealing with a 4 week old when it comes to sleep. That helps level the expectations, but your situation would be frustrating even at 4 weeks! I also firmly agree with the comment that babies are meant to be in our bellies for closer to 12 months- so for their first three months they just want to snuggled up close to you! What has worked great for me is a sling. I put my baby in it at the first sign of drowsiness and walk around the condo with her. She’s out within 10 minutes. She will nap in there for 2 hours sometimes and I’m able to recline on my back to get some sleep if I need. I’m not about attachment parenting but baby wearing can work wonders even if it just gets him rested enough to be able to sleep at night. An overtired baby resists sleep so hard. Lastly, get him out of the house EVERY day. A walk or errands or a ride in the bob just get him out. A little fresh air can do great things for both of you. And as Weissbluth will tell you, this early on there are no bad habits!!! Just get the poor kid to sleep so you can get healthy yourself. If that means a carseat sleep after a drive then bring him in asleep in the carrier, put him in the nursery and let him sleep. Okay sorry one more thing. Some good advice I got about nursing is that it has to be working for both of you. It can’t just be the right thing for one of you. So if it turns out his tummy has trouble with your milk and you need to switch to formula please don’t feel guilty. He has great parents who love him and that is way more important than long term exclusive breastfeeding. Good luck,hang in there, we are thinking of you!!!

  86. Ugh. Sending good thoughts your way and sleepy ones to Wyatt since I can’t offer any other help. Hopefully, it’s just a phase, but I imagine it’s still brutal.

  87. One other thing. I talked to my best friend last night about her reflux baby. She has added probiotic drops to his eating routine and it seems to be working. She says that they are about $30 for a tiny bottle… but whatever works at this point right? Just one more thought if someone hasn’t mentioned it already. :)

  88. I wanted to say hello and I hope that just maybe you got a little more sleep last night?

    I have two kids, and my oldest, Anna, had horrible cramps and poops after nearly all her feedings. Not knowing what I know now, I didn’t have the abilities to take the dairy, etc out of my diet and Anna just got worse by the day. It ended when one of her diapers was filled with spots of blood…she was allergic to my breastmilk (Or that is what I was told by both the lactation guru and our doctor) We switched Anna to formula and overnight she was a different baby. She needed to be on the super expensive formula but it worked out….this all went down when she was 6 weeks old. Throughout Anna’s life she has had 2 dozen ear infections, has been allergy tested but she just seems to be one of those “sick” kids

    My son on the other hand, I nursed him until his first birthday, he was a big baby and went to bed easily (and very early) but has always been an early riser

    I hope you get to the bottom of his problems.

    I also wanted to add that I hope your mental health is ok. It can be very very difficult caring for a newborn with little sleep.

    one other thing, we use to wedge our daugther to sleep a little side ways, rolled up blankets or even this foam thing someone gave us.

    • He poops all the time, too. I haven’t noticed blood yet, but I know it can be hard to see without a microscope. Hopefully, allergy testing will reveal more! Thank you!

  89. I swear by the nap nanny! Our baby angel had (still does) the worst reflux and tummy issues and we were not sleeping at all until the nap nanny. She would only sleep on us until the nap nanny. The great thing is it can be in your bed so if the baby starts to fuss, you can just reach up to pat the butt to sooth them back to sleep until the correct time. We sold ours to a doctor who was having the same issues with their baby and they had the same results as we did. I wish they had nap nanny for adults. We discovered that she was lactose intolerent and that helped some to but the nap nanny was a savior for sure.

    Another good idea is to get someone to help you both so you can get some sleep, date night for sleep!

    Good luck and enjoy the beautiful boy.

    • Are they on their backs in the nap nanny? He doesn’t even like being on his back elevated. :( Thanks!

      • They are on their backs but we had to roll a baby blanket up and have her lean to left side (I think). As for the feeding, have you tried Dr. Brown bottles? They remove the air as they drink so there is almost no burping or gas.

  90. I work in early childhood education and what you are experiencing is common. Babies usually increase their crying when they are 6-12 weeks old. Check out the website hugyoubaby.org for some suggestions of how to handle this time. My biggest suggestion would be to not be afraid to soothe him at night. Good luck!

  91. Oooh I feel for you! I am so sorry. I was so super lucky to have TWO boys that were exactly like yours. Both had severe reflux and allergies. Others have suggested it but we had to stop breast feeding and switch to the super sensitive formula (not soy) but Alimentum. It’s smells so gross but it made a world of a difference with both my boys. It’s really expensive…somthing like 25 bucks a can but I think at that point I would have cut my limbs off and donated them, just to get some sleep! One thing we learned with child number 2 was that you can get a prescription for that special formula. It saved us a ton of money. Our doctor had to write a letter to our insurance company but they covered the cost and that helped so much! Good Luck.

  92. I cosleep with my little guy. We both sleep great. My little guy does have light reflux. He spits up a lot but he is just a happy spitter–he’s not in pain and he’s gaining plenty of weight–he just spits up a lot.
    Does he sleep better on his tummy? I know it’s forbidden these days but some babies just sleep better on their tummies. Maybe it would be more comfortable for him?
    Good luck!

  93. Hi Jen, I’m so sorry that you are going through this with gorgeous Wyatt. I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone!

    My son was born at 37 weeks and was the most fussy, irritable, bad sleeping baby I could have imagined! He also fed every 1.5 hours for the first two months of his life, then stretched himself to 2 hours, then 3… it was a loooong process! I’m a pediatric nurse so expected to ‘know’ what to do, but I was at a loss. My Mum and Aunt are midwives and I literally tried every single suggestion people gave me (including most of the ones suggested here), and unfortunately it was just HIM. The best advice I got was from my Mum, and she said the more I tried to fix it, the most stressed I was getting and the more I was blaming myself which wasn’t helping either of us. Sometimes you just have to go with it, and know it won’t last forever. Women are built to cope with less sleep somehow!

    Some other lovely advice I got was you can never love a baby too much – do whatever it takes to comfort/settle him and get some rest for you both and don’t worry about habits etc. They’re only tiny for SUCH a short time.

    Anyway, none of this is much help but I just wanted to say I’ve been through it too, you’re lucky you’re so fit and healthy because it’s helping you cope, but at the end of the day try not to think it’s something you are or aren’t doing.

    Oh and one other thing that kept me sane – some studies I read show that irritable fussy babies who are not good sleepers have higher IQ’s….. like any ‘studies’ you believe what you want but when I was up at 1am, 2am, 3am, 4am, 5am and 6am I believed it because it kept me going!! :)

    Lauren (from Australia)

  94. I am sorry you are going through this. My son was colicky and never slept more than 1hour. What I did was let him sleep with me so I did not have to get up. Also nap with him. Changing to formula will probably cause more problems. Do you have a lot of things with caffeine in it. People that do not have kids or have a good sleeper really do not understand. take naps when your husband is home. It is surprising how you do survive on so little sleep. He was also born early so it might take some time for him to work out sleep issues.

  95. My daughter sent me to your blog because of childhood memories of her sister :) It sounds so much the same in terms of sleep and reflux. She was 8 weeks early and spent 2 weeks in the NICU where I worked, and also breastfed.
    Honestly, looking back, of all the things we did the best was to ask said sister to pray that baby would learn to take a pacifier. Within 12 hours she did :) and although I was still getting up every 2 hours to put it back in her mouth, the nonstop screaming was MUCH decreased (which was HUGE). We laugh still about me laying 7-8 pacifiers around her head like a halo knowing eventually she’d learn to grab one! She never was a good napper but eventually slept through the night (I won’t tell you how long..I promise you don’t want to know).
    Being a nurse I know I constantly tried to think and discern what the problem was but was never could figure it out. I think it was just a combination of her personality and being early. A therapist in the NICU recommended a book called “The Self-Calmed Baby” but with 2 kids I was just to tired to get it and read it!
    Praying for a sleeping baby for you…

  96. A lot of people will tell you differently (because every baby is different) but at his age, with the reflux especially, he might not be in a sleep “routine” anytime soon. My best advice? Don’t try to figure out too much rhyme or reason in it all. If he’s happy and healthy, the sleep stuff will come. Just try to hang in there in the meantime. (That, of course, is the hardest part!) My oldest was nearly identical in sleep pattern to what you’re describing. We just kept doing all of the “tricks” and trying to establish a routine and eventually, it stuck. Best of luck to you!

  97. Oh my gosh, I can totally relate. I have a three week old baby who does not sleep. She screams and sounds like a cat fight for most of the night no matter what we do. Glad to know that at least I am not alone.

  98. Hi,

    Another book recommendation! http://shop.saveoursleep.com.au/product/2390/33335/
    Two things that might help;
    1. The author talks about the fact that the parents of a lot of babies who are not sleeping well say that the baby hates swaddling but actually the child is just tired or grumpy, its not the swaddling.
    2. The other thing is that she talks about is sometimes not putting the baby down as soon as you see signs of tiredness. It can cause a cycle of napping rather than sleeping. She says that if you leave it another 20 min often the baby will be that much more tired and have a proper sleep rather than a nap. The caveat is that it might be hard to tell if this is the problem if the baby is not in a routine.
    Better to read it yourself though as you will be able to apply it better to your own situation. Dreadfully stressful for you. Hang in there!

  99. This may be a repeat, (I didn’t read every comment) but my son and now daughter had reflux, and we found The swing, int the side to side position worked best for us. We swaddled them both with the miracle blanket, then put them reclined in the swing. With my son we had to bounce him to sleep, using happiest baby technique, then place him in swing. My daughter could put herself to sleep in it, and slept in the swing or next to me until 4 months. She’s five months now, in the crib, on her back, and puts herself to sleep wonderfully. With both of them, it has been key to put them down as soon as I think they might be sleepy. Sometimes only an hour after waking up.

  100. For what it’s worth, we keep our house at 62 degrees at night and our 2 girls (ages 1 and 3 now) can’t sleep with it much hotter–they toss and turn and wake up a lot more often! With your house at 72 degrees, I thought it might be worth a mention…maybe your little guy is thick-blooded like us! :)

  101. I aplogize if this is a repeat answer, but I have a 5 week old baby and don’t have time to read through 200+ comments. My baby has almost all of the same symptoms yours does – the short of it is that she also has reflux, which is awful in itself, but also a little bit of colic. My doc says it should get better in a few weeks, but in the meantime we are using Colic Calm. At first I didnt think it was helping, but after stopping it for a few days I definitely see where it is. I give 1/3 of a dose every 5-6 hours to keep the gas down and she seems to sleep better and stop the painful cries with pulling her legs up to her belly. She still has the noisy bowel movements, but apparently this is a common condition and due to their immature digestive system. Try the Colic Calm, it can’t hurt at this point!

  102. Hi Jen-
    My first was 6 weeks early and had reflux. I was insane because he was up ALL NIGHT until about 4 months old. doesn’t sound like a long time in retrospect, but everyday was a real struggle to get through. All the facts and stuff saying sleeping for long stretches right now is just not real – just luck! But in my opinon, by 12ish weeks (adjusted, of course) you should expect your baby to be able to only be up once or twice at most! So one night I finally put my son down on his one-side elevated bed on his belly and he slept. I was up all night staring at him bc I was scared of belly sleeping, but he has slept that was ever since.
    With my second son, He wasn’t showing much progress and at 11 weeks I called moms on call. It was a pricey phone call, but it really helped to have someone repeat what I needed to do over and over. And wouldn’t you know it – the stinker slept all night the night I was ready to get tough on him :)
    We let our second cry a little longer (after 12 weeks) than his brother, and he is a much better self soother, so don’t be afraid of a little crying it out!
    But truly, this time will pass or you will teach him – no way will you let your six month old have that kind of night of sleep! Take every offer of help in the meantime and run when you can to keep feeling like you!
    Good luck.


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