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5Dec/1157

The birth of Wyatt: Part 3

The birth of Wyatt: Part 3: Shock and "aww"

Continued from Part 1 and Part 2

The mayhem around my hospital bed seemed to last forever. I was freaking out and wondering why the heck I wasn't being wheeled down the hall to the OR for a C-section. Then I saw my midwife, Sage, smile at the anesthesiologist, and I began to calm down.

The extra hands left my room almost as quickly as they entered, and I was once again left with Jeff and my nurse. I took off my oxygen mask and asked what happened. The epidural made my blood pressure return to my normal levels (it had been high all labor). When that happened, the baby's heart rate dropped dangerously low. A shot of epinephrine brought things back to normal, thankfully. The human body never ceases to amaze me. I was aggravated all evening that my blood pressure was so high. But ironically, my high blood pressure is what my baby needed to stay healthy.

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For the next hour, Jeff and I were left alone. Had I known this would be our final hour as a family of two, I'm sure we would have talked about something slightly more meaningful. Instead, I just rattled on about how hungry I was for a spicy chicken biscuit from Chick-fil-a (something I had only eaten once or twice ever). I told him it was my goal to get the baby out before breakfast hours at the fast food joint were over. But I knew that wasn't going to happen. Epidurals always slow down labor, so I ruined my chances to get my greasy, yummy breakfast.

Jeff stayed positive as always. He said I'd have the baby around 6:00 a.m. and I told him there was no chance he'd come so quickly. But he encouraged me to be optimistic and pick the time I wanted our son to arrive. I said before 4:00 a.m. Like that would happen…

At 2:40 a.m., my nurse came back into the room to check how dilated I was. Then she asked how I felt about pushing. Pushing?! I was given the epidural an hour ago! How could I have gone from 5cm to 10cm in an hour when epidurals are supposed to slow labor?!

I was furious with myself for not hanging in there and holding off on the epidural one more hour. But my nurse said if I had not gotten the epidural, I would not have made progress. Apparently, I was fighting my contractions so hard because I didn't want to keep having diarrhea. At that moment, I completely changed my opinion on epidurals. I'd spent my entire pregnancy with the mindset that epidurals= bad, but now I was incredibly grateful for the drug.

I enjoyed the pushing phase of labor so much. Jeff and my nurse had to help hold my legs because of the epidural, but pushing was fun. I felt my contractions enough so I knew when I needed to push. I pushed 3 times whenever I felt a contraction, about every 4-5 minutes.

The baby's head kept going out and in, and Jeff, Sage, and the nurse kept trying to figure out what color hair the baby had. They concluded it was brown which shocked us. I was born with auburn hair and Jeff with blonde. How our son came out with brown hair is beyond me (it's getting lighter now though).

After about a half hour, I felt a lot of pressure below where the baby's head was coming out. I realized I was tearing, and once again felt thankful for the epidural. I was truly enjoying this moment, and was so glad the pain of tearing wasn't overshadowing it.

Then my nurse told me the baby was tolerating the pushing a lot better than the breaks between pushes, and I was put on oxygen again. That was all the motivation I needed to push harder. On the next set of pushes, I gave all I had for the first push. During the start of the second push, everyone screamed "stop!"

At 3:28 a.m., I looked down and saw my baby's head and the rest of his body come out. Then, I heard him crying which was a truly incredible sound. Before I knew it, he was thrown onto my stomach. He stayed there and got dried off until his umbilical cord stopped pulsating. Finally, he was thrown onto my chest and I was in complete shock.

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I cannot properly describe what I felt in that moment. The goal was never ovulation, a positive pregnancy test, a beating heart on an ultrasound, meeting my kick counts, or reaching full term. The goal was this moment: when a crying baby was placed on my chest. I could not believe it actually happened to me. It was the most surreal moment ever.

I didn't cry, and sadly I cannot remember what I first said to him. I'll never forget what Jeff said though. After cutting the cord, Jeff walked up to my head and kissed me. Then he kissed Wyatt on the head and said, "you're not an immature egg." (Check out that story here.)

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For the next hour, the shock continued. I could not get over how adorable and perfect he was! I heard his APGAR scores: 9 after one minute and 10 after 5 minutes. He quickly started sucking and attempted to nurse. I couldn't believe a baby who was born 2.5 weeks early was this healthy. I couldn't get over how small he was at 6 lbs. 15 oz. I was told all pregnancy he'd be a 10 pounder.

I also couldn't believe how long it took my midwife and other nurses to stitch me up: a good hour. I was so confused as to how a small baby could do so much damage. It turns out, Wyatt entered the world sucking his thumb!

Not much of Wyatt's birth experience happened like I expected, but it was better than I could have ever imagined. And the cliché is true: I cannot believe how much I love him, and I already cannot imagine my life without him.

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Thank you so much for making me a mommy, Wyatt. <3

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  1. I had an epidural with both of my births and I really enjoyed them both!! I tore both times too and was greatful to not feel that or the stitching back up! ; ) Great story, thanks for sharing@

  2. Oh my goodness! This is the MOST amazing and beautiful story ever! Thank you so much for sharing with us! Congratulations and welcome to the world baby Wyatt!!!

  3. Such a beautiful story. I just love what Jeff said :) Wyatt is just adorable- and I love that he came out sucking. Such a chilled thing to do :)

    And you’re right about the goal- I’ve found pregnancy so scary for that exact reason!

  4. Amazing! Congratulations!!!*

  5. such a sweet story! I love the pictures with stuffed Nati. :)
    I can’t wait to see him grow and change!

  6. yay!!!! What a lovely story! Thank you for sharing. He is just perfect. Congrats to you and Jeff.

  7. So very sweet. Congratulations to you and Jeff! :)

  8. Ugly crying at this:

    I cannot properly describe what I felt in that moment. The goal was never ovulation, a positive pregnancy test, a beating heart on an ultrasound, meeting my kick counts, or reaching full term. The goal was this moment: when a crying baby was placed on my chest. I could not believe it actually happened to me. It was the most surreal moment ever.

    I am so, so, so happy for you guys. I hope I’m there soon, too.

  9. So….. did you get your Chik fil-A???

    • Haha no! I’ll write about this more later, but I’ve had zero appetite since he was born.

      • Oh no, I’m sorry! I just moved to Hawaii from Alabama (military hubby) and your post left me craving a spicy chicken sandwich! And sadly, there is no chik fil-a here:( Probably the only thing that makes me miss ‘bama haha

  10. Beautiful story! You three (4 with stuffed Nati) look fabulous together.

  11. I’m so happy for you Jen! He is beautiful! Such a miracle!

  12. Oh wow, your story gave me the chills and brought tears to my eyes–how amazing is that moment when a crying newborn baby is placed on your chest? I think that was the most emotional moment ever for both me & my husband. Congrats and enjoy!

  13. Oh, and I had no appetite the first week or so after Maya was born. Once my milk came in though, and my supply started to increase after a few weeks, my appetite surged and hasn’t slowed down since!

  14. you look amazing!!!! so happy and relaxed for just giving birth!

  15. Such a wonderful story! I’m glad you had a good experience with an epidural! He’s so precious!! Looking forward to more updates soon:D

  16. Congrats! What a beautiful story!

  17. You are going to be an incredible mother. He will always be your special son.

  18. Beautiful post. It brought tears to my eyes!

  19. Your story is absolutely beautiful and gives me so much hope–thank you for sharing! Like you, I have PCOS. My husband and I have had little success with infertility treatments so far and are now in the midst of our first cycle with injections. Thank you again for being so open and honest!

  20. I am so beyond happy for you. No words to express it- Congrats!!!

  21. Yet another amazing birth story that leaves me in tears. Love the picture of you, Jeff, & Wyatt. A beautiful family!

  22. “I cannot properly describe what I felt in that moment. The goal was never ovulation, a positive pregnancy test, a beating heart on an ultrasound, meeting my kick counts, or reaching full term. The goal was this moment: when a crying baby was placed on my chest. I could not believe it actually happened to me. It was the most surreal moment ever.” truly lovely paragraph, thankyou – I love the last picture; a simple moment of pure love….so happy for you guys!!

  23. thank you so much for sharing this beautiful story. it makes me all teary eyed. so well written. i hope that i am as lucky and blessed as you are one day soon :) congrats mommy and daddy!

  24. what a beuatiful and rewarding end to a rather ‘unexpected’ labour :) I am so very very happy for you and your hubby – and Wyatt is just GORGEOUS!!!

  25. I’ve loved reading your story! It makes me tear up- such happy tears! He’s just gorgeous and you look fabulous. I popped Hailey out about an hour after my epidural, too, so I guess they don’t always slow things down (which is what I had thought, too!).
    Congratulations and I can’t wait to meet the little man!

  26. I just also wanted to give another epidural success story so that you can feel even better about your birthing outcome :) I had two med-free births and felt great about it. My second one went so great and I really knew how to handle myself and keep myself relaxed. And then my 3rd decided to be 2 weeks late so I had to be induced. And man, those pitocin contractions kicked my butt. I finally “gave in” and got the epidural and in LESS than an hour, I had went from 5.5cm to fully dilated and pushing. It’s easy to beat yourself up over it when you had a different goal in mind, but like you said, your ultimate goal was to have a healthy baby on your chest and that’s what you can truly be happy about and focus on. Congratulations! I loved hearing your story!!

  27. What an awesome story! And I can totally see how the epidural relaxed you enough to make progress. I’m going to keep an open mind about it when that time comes for me. Thanks for sharing your story!

  28. The fact that you didn’t cry is amazing considering that I am weeping at my desk right now, telling myself to “get it together!”.

    Congrats and warmest wishes to the whole family…give your dog an extra smooch too?

  29. What a beautiful story! Congratulations, and enjoy this beautiful time in your lives!

  30. So amazing!! Thank you for sharing and CONGRATULATIONS!!! Lol I too was wondering if you got your chickfila biscuit- the spicy ones are the best haha!

    What a beautiful family!!

  31. Congrats!!! So beautiful. He is such a good lookin’ kid :)

  32. Aww your story sounds a bit like mine :) I caved and got an epidural and started pushing about 10 minutes later! I went from 1cm-10 in an hour. And my daughter has brown hair when we were SURE that she’d be a blondie. :) Congrats on your adorable bundle!

  33. Congratulations Jen!! He is sooo cute!

  34. Awww yay! :) Congratulations!

  35. Your husband had to have been the best-dressed daddy on the floor. Collared shirt during labor? Snazzy ;)

  36. Congratulations! He’s beautiful! And you did a great job, mama.

  37. Tears of joy for you and you family :). Can’t wait to experience it for myself!

  38. Aww you are making me tear up! I am at 36.5 weeks and reading stories like yours is making me very excited to meet our little one, and a bit less nervous about labor :)

  39. So excited that I finally goto to read part 3 of Wyatt’s story! It was such a beautiful story and a fantastic ending to all of the oddities you’d experienced in parts 1 & 2. I’m glad everything turned out so perfectly – you deserve it all! And, despite seeing those crazy birth videos last weekend, your story made me feel much calmer about the whole process!

  40. Oh my gosh Jen – this story is simply amazing. Having never had a child of my own (yet, hopefully) I don’t think I’ve ever been so moved by a birth story! I’m so unbelievably happy for you and Jeff – I can’t imagine just how happy you must be knowing that you went through so much to get pregnant in the first place. I truly wish you and your family the best! You and Jeff are going to be GREAT parents – I know I only know the “online Jen” but seeing how much care and love went into every step leading up to pregnancy and child birth for you, I can only imagine how awesome you’re going to be as little Wyatt is growing up! Congratulations again!

  41. I’ve been reading your blog for a while now, but have never left you a comment. Just wanted to say that I really enjoy reading your blog and have been anxiously awaiting to hear the birth story of your son. Congratulations! He is precious!

  42. Oh my goodness..just catching up on these now! I am so so so glad you shared your story and with such detail. It is so unbelievably helpful and good to know that not all births are the same. It drives me nuts when nurses claim certain thins, like you will “know” when you are in labor. I say this because I not only DID leak amniotic fluid, but am also experiencing a lot of cramping and have not felt contractions or Braxton Hicks. Who knows what this means, but I know there isn’t a cut and dry answer.

    I’m also glad that you went with the flow with your birth plan to do what was needed. I think that’s important for all us pregos to remember. For me, I know I want an epidural and if I have to have a c-section I’m okay with that. Releasing any expectations has made me fairly calm…let’s hope I say this way.

    Keep sharing more of little Wyatt!!!

  43. Aww, you have a baby now!

    Is that little dog supposed to be Nati?

  44. Best story! He is so damn cute! How is Nati doing with the little munchkin around?

  45. Such an amazing story Jen! So sorry I’m late to comment! This makes me so excited to see my baby for the first time…
    PS, I’ve been going back to your weekly updates a lot lately, so glad I have you as a resource. xo, hope everything is going well…

  46. Jen – there are no words. I just read all parts of Wyatt’s birth story, one right after the other, and am in tears. I don’t think labor ever goes just the way you had expected (hoped) it would, but that doesn’t make the birth story any less beautiful. And I LOVE the line about how HE was the goal all along. I am so happy for you all. I know Wyatt couldn’t be any more loved than he is by you both. Sending you all so much love.

  47. aw, congratulations!!!!! Thanks for sharing your story…I LOVE what Jeff said about Wyatt not being an immature egg…I am tearing up here at my computer! Congrats again on a beautiful baby boy! <3

  48. Ahh, the tears came for me at “STOP!” Wonderfully written, and I also found labor and delivery to be completely different from what I had learned. Thank you for sharing.

  49. I’m 21 weeks right now and I can’t wait to feel the same feeling and experience that emotion you did. I’m crying like a baby over here, thank you so much for sharing!!:) My goal is for her to look up and stare into my eyes.

  50. I just stumbled upon your blog and was completely amazed at how similar the birth of your son was to the birth of my daughter! It really touched me! I loved reading it. It brought back so many memories of that day! I really enjoy your blog!


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